My friend at work just started maybe 5 or 6 months ago.  She was having a rough time adjusting to my manager's supervisory style.  Apparently, my manager micro-manages which I kind of knew but I've been working with her for 5 years and it's been years since she's acted like that with me.  However, my friend was very unahappy and decided to find work elsewhere.  Well she did and gave a 2 1/2 week notice and now apparently my manager and our divison director are all giving her a hard time about completing certain tasks prior to leaving. Then to make it worse, the division director decided to share her two cents with my friend.  She told myu friend that she was angry and hurt that my friend would just leave them like this with all of the workload and then she proceeded to defend my manager's supervisory style and implied that anyone who hurts her friend (my manager) is also hurting her and therefore she will not be friendly to my friend anymore.  I guess my friend was so hurt by those words because she was starting to build a friendship with the director and they had shared some personal stuff.  Things are kind of awkward now and I had already kept my distance just because my friend is kind of a straight forward type person and so I felt like everything would come to a head sooner rather than later because of her personality.  I hope my manager and director don't hold my friendship with my friend against me???? I tend to be non confrontational and more understanding.  My friend got a job accross the street so we will probably still hang out at lunch or on breaks when we can but it might be kind of weird now if my manager and director see this because they may direct their ill feelings towards me.  I hope not but maybe I am just being paranoid.  Has anyone experienced something like this before?

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Nov. 3, 2010 at 7:56 PM

I hope everything works out okay!

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Nov. 5, 2010 at 1:25 PM

Well that doesn't seem to be very professional of them. I mean the 'you hurt my friend and so I am not going to be nice to you" thng seems like they are acting like children. She is removing herself from an uncomfortable situation and gave plenty of notice. The others need to learn to handle change and use the time to find her replacement, grow up and stop harrasing her. I hope everyone learns to move on and everything works out.

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