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My MIL was killed when a tractor trailor jack-knifed and turned over on a 2 lane road. A lot of T.T. were using that road to avoid some work being done on the interstate.My daughter had called me to tell me that there was a bad accident and it looked like my MILs van.We drove to the scene[within 3 miles of home] and after telling the Police Officer we thought it was dhs Mother ,he let us go through. We heard someone say that someone had died.The van was so messed up it was hard to tell at first but when I looked in and saw gospel tapes and a CB radio, I knew.No one would tell us anything except to go to the hospital.Being a nurse,I knew it was bad but didn't want to upset my husband just in case so I kept quite.At the hospital we learned she had lost her life and DHs sister had a serious brain injury and was taken to a bigger hospital 40 miles away.His sister survived but we have to take care of her. She can't function on her own.His mom was the glue that held the family together and the whole family unit was destroyed that day. Nothing has ever been the same. His family doesn't even get together for holidays.
I didn't know what brought this to my mind or why I was sharing it until I just wrote it. It's the holidays coming up and I miss her most around them. She kept the family traditions going and it's just sad that the family couldn't get closer instead of as far apart as they now are.I started this in a group and thought it really wasn't the place for it so it will go here in my journal for now.It has been 10 years but she was a friend to me and I miss her more every day.And I miss how the family was when she was here and hate what has become of his brothers.His sister will never be a functioning adult again.Sure do miss her.

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Nov. 3, 2010 at 4:06 PM

 I lost my MIL in a divorce. I can't imagine how it must feel to lose one to death. I am a MIL to three. Some like me some don't. I love them all. My sons -in law don't have a problem with me but my DiL is so jealous she can't see all I want is for her and my DS to be happy. I keep trying to extend the olive leaf. Please pray we will soon have the same kind of relationship you and your DMIL had. God bless you . You give hope to all MIL s that truly want a loving relationship with their DIL s!

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Nov. 3, 2010 at 6:23 PM

I'm sorry. I would be heartbroken if I ever lost my MIL. 

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Nov. 3, 2010 at 6:37 PM

Thanks ladies,I treat my DIL as well as I can. I tell her its ok to spend the holidays with her Mother ,I take the spare time.I like my dds with me on holidays so I can understand her mom wanting the same.She and my son have a good stable marriage, The kids are healthy and happy. They are in several after school sports and scouts.I couldn't be more proud of them.Who wouldn't love a DIL that made your son happy and was a great Mother. I only have the one DIL and I have great respect for her and want her to feel the same about me.

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Nov. 3, 2010 at 7:52 PM

I'm sorry. It's really difficult losing people we love -- and no matter how long they are still hurts sometimes. I hope you can make new memories with your family...ones that they will remember.

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Dec. 17, 2010 at 9:28 PM

So sorry for your loss. There is no words that can make it any easier. I just lost my daughter 29 and grandson 3, in a car accident in Aug. Its been so hard during the holidays, but I'm trying to keep it together for my 3 other children and 3 grandchildren. I couldn't have made it without them to lean on. You and your family are in my prayers. God bless you and your family!

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Aug. 16, 2011 at 10:54 AM

I'm so sorry for your loss. It sounds like she was the pillar of the family and you all lost a lot on that day. But the love you felt continues to this day and that is beautiful. She will always be with you.

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Oct. 8, 2011 at 2:51 PM

Just now reading this and I'm so sorry to hear about it.  It is a shame how one family member keeps the family together.  My MIL died of a heart attack but it broke the family up to.  So sad.

May God Bless you.

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Oct. 8, 2011 at 6:56 PM

Sorry to hear about your MIL Nancy.Thanks for coming by.

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