i have been in a relationship with him since lana was 3 months and he is supposed to be my best friend but the physical and mental abuse and the talking down has dragged me to my lowest point. i dont know who i am anymore but i still love him so much my heart hurts !!! I ve taken him back when he cheated on me but i still think about it 24 /7 how do i get the courage to trust him again or is it even worth it ? I want to be a happy healthy woman and the best mom i can but im not when im with him but im so scared to be alone and i feel like i cant live without him what am i supposed to do i feel stuck and i cant take it anymore someone please give me some good advice i cant do this anymore

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pair-...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 12:45 PM

i have been in your shoes before.I know what it is to be phyically and mentally abused.I am an Abuse Suvivor. You should not be abused and you loving him makes it harder.It took my abuser going to prison and while he was there I left.Please be safe and do what is best.In my prayers.

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misty...
Nov. 3, 2010 at 1:16 PM

You are worthy to be loved as much as you love someone.  Your children are worthy to grow up in a home where abuse does not go on.   Love does not physically hurt you.  Love does not mentally abuse you.   What are you going to do when he turns his anger towards your children?  He will eventually.  Take care of you and your girls.  Do what you have to do to rise above this.  Best of luck my thoughts go with you........

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kkbird
Nov. 3, 2010 at 1:42 PM

You can't allow yourself to be the BEST mom when you are constantly being beat down. I have had to learn this in a hard way.  It takes an act of courage and many emotions to even begin to overcome this mental abuse.  The first step is getting away from it!!!!  If he LOVED you, HE wouldn't be cheating. (NO EXCUSES) it didn't just fall in by accident.  He would respect you and adore you, not belittle you.  I know I don't want my kids growing up "thinking" this is an ok way of life and to always be fearful and feel not good enough.......  best of luck to you and please, think about you and the way you deserve to be loved as well as protecting your family's emotional , mental stability...

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