Well, when we were @ Caden's iep meeting they kept saying how daniels (the school originally recommended w/mean speech lady) wasn't a good fit for Caden and gave me a ton of excuses as to why he didn't need to go there...um..ok..(i know it's b/c i complained on their therapist). they said he should go to a diff school..so the girl over the preschool calls the lady that teaches special needs @ another elem. school and sets up a meeting for 1 today...we get there..go in a room w/the teacher and the principal and she asks me where we live..i tell her and she said--haven't you considered another school? i said well they told us to come here? and she said well, we don't take kids who are out of district and don't ride the bus.. and you need to consider putting him on the bus anyway.  and then i said um..thank you for your time? (b/c they were just sitting there LOOKING at me) and she told me to have a nice day.  Then i said 'wish u would have told me on the phone so i didn't have to drag caden out'  ... well, sorry..we didn't realize where you lived (the school is 10 or so min from my house)  and just a few min ago, the head preschool lady calls and says 'sorry the principal's only been there 2 weeks and she didn't know to take him....shouldn't YOU have called and told her?? what a holy mess.. I am for SURE sending him to private school... and writing more school board members...and the newspaper.. this is ridiculous. 


My son, Caden is going to be three years old in December.  He has mild autism and we had a meeting today at the preschool with the woman who will be his speech therapist.  We had been in the meeting for five or ten minutes and she had just been talking to me and having me tell her about him, and Caden was walking around the room, just checking things out & playing with the toys that were set out.  He then went over to the counter and knocked some of her papers off.  She then proceeded to go over to him, GRAB both his arms and get in his face and began saying (very harshly) NO!! We do NOT throw papers in the floor!! NO!!  Caden started bawling and was very upset, (so was I) and she just said 'well, he's got to learn that he can't do that' to which I replied 'when he needs to be corrected, we use a stern voice, yes, but we do NOT raise our voices to him or grab him or get in his face like that!  For the rest of the time that we were there, he wanted me to hold him and would not look at or go near the woman.  He just kept saying bye bye bye bye bye..  :(  And when we got home, for the better part of two hours, he was acting very timid and wouldn't let me get near him and kept trying to hide his face in the pillows on the bed.  I am extremely upset about this--I mean, who DOES that?? Especially to a child that they KNOW has autism.  ugh 

** I have contacted the school and the assistant principal..and all she keeps saying is "well, we have never had a complaint on her, and she is an expert at what she does..."  I have also spoken with the head person over special needs and am going to contact the school board as well.  This is something that needs to be looked into.  If she acted like that when I was in the room, what would she be doing if I wasn't?  :(  I am so sad for my precious lil boy.  He didn't deserve that.

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Nov. 3, 2010 at 11:58 PM

I am so sorry your son experienced this.. I would not let this drop..

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Nov. 3, 2010 at 11:59 PM

I would not let this stop at the school to handle.  That is unacceptable.  No one has the right to touch your child in such a manner.  What would the division of family and youth services think of her behavior.  It would only be a phone call.

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 12:03 AM

what kills me is the assistant principle was defending her.. she kept saying they've never had any problems or complaints before...and after the 4th time she said that i told her she has now.. !!

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 12:50 AM

file a written complaint that way the person in charge cant deny that there has been past issues.  Also make sure to continue up the chain of command and demand that she at least be written up and monitored

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 6:22 AM

Oh this is terriible :(.  It makes no difference if she is a professional or not.  Her actions and behavior were inappropriate.  Put it in writing and keep going until your satisfied.  I hope to goodness she was having a bad moment and this is not a precurser to how she would treat children who have sensory stimulation problems :(. 

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 8:35 AM

That is just WRONG!!!!! They've never had a complaint about her??? WTF?? Well, you have one NOW!!! This just effing irratates the hell out of me. As a mom of an autisitc son, I get enough nasty looks and comments from people who don't know that he's autistic. To get it from the people who know his issues and still act in this way would have sent me over the edge. I would not let this go. There is more than one "expert in her field" that would be much better for Caden. Get them!

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 8:38 AM

Um, school staff isn't supposed to touch children unless absolutely necessary for safety, etc.  Mild Autism...speech therapist should have said his name and got his attention.  Then she should have explained that his behavior was unacceptable.  What sort of behavior plan do they have in place?  Shouldn't the speech therapist be following a behavior plan instead of disciplining in her own style?

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 9:11 AM

I would have gone through the roof!!!  My son has moderate autism, and if anyone did that I would have been in her face!!!!  Go to the superintendent.  State school board whatever it takes.  She assaulted your son!

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 10:22 AM

wow momma good luck i understand where your comming from its one thing to use a stern voice as you do at home but her raising her voice at him was just wrong.

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 10:32 AM You are a better person than me. My son, who is soon to be 10, was just diagnosed with PDD-NOS this year, but he's been receiving special services since he was 2 1/2 yrs old. If his speech therapist had done that, I would've likely punched her in the face for manhandling my baby like that.

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