This is kind of long but I need to know if I'm wrong.  On Halloween my friend came over to my house to play video games.  She sent her daughters,a  9 year old and 6 year old twins, home to change into jammies.  I guess while they were there, a mutual friend stopped at her house to trick or treat, they are 10 and 12.  The front door was open and the boys knocked and then one of the twins came out.  She told them they could take a piece of candy out of a box that was "half full".  They each took about a handful, to our best guess and ran.  They ended up coming trick or treating to my house.  The little girl who had answered the door came back to my house while the boys were here and said the boys took most of the candy.  The boys ran.

My friend called the boys parents who went out to find them.  About 15 min later the other friend showed up with the boys.  The boys swear up and down they didn't take that much.  Anyways, my friend starts screaming at this guy in my living room and keeps saying "she saw how much candy was there" about me and "he saw the boys bolt when the boys were first confronted about the candy" about my husband.  My children were sleeping except for my 5 month old baby who was getting upset by the yelling.  My husband and I didn't say anything at first because we were trying to take in the whole thing.  She got pissed off, spilled my soda, and stormed out of my house.  I went over to talk to her and she treated me like dirt, so I left.

She later came over to my house and started yelling at my husband then said he ended our friendship.  I was her childcare provider, I told her I felt it was in her best interest to find a new provider as I didn't want her to pin something on me that wasn't my fault.  Since then she has been treating my whole family including my 4 year old son like dirt and saying awful things to her kids about me.  Am I in the wrong to not want any part of this?  Should I have yelled with her about the candy at my other friend?  What do I do?

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 12:42 AM

No, she is. your  friend should have spoken to you like adult, not some 12 yrs old. if she really was your friend, she could have handle the situation better.

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 9:04 AM

I just keep thinking that there was no need for anger because there was candy involved.  Candy should have kept everyone happy and jovial.happy

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Nov. 4, 2010 at 7:34 PM

OMGosh...I don't think you did anything wrong. I think you found out what type of person she really is and that you are lucky to have her out of your life. Sorry...but, no one needs "friends" like her.

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