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1) What is a CafeMom influencer and how do I win gift cards from CafeMom?

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Nov. 5, 2010 at 3:55 AM

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Nov. 5, 2010 at 3:56 AM

Make friends and have fun in CafeMom groups

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Thirty Days of Thanks: Join Our Gratitude Challenge!



Did you know gratitude is good for your health? Researchers have found that thinking about the things you are thankful for or writing a thank you note can:

-lower your blood pressure

-help you lose weight

-decrease your risk of developing depression, phobias, bulimia and alcoholism

So let's practice gratitude this month! In honor of Thanksgiving month, join our Thirty Days of Thanks Challenge. We'll be drawing winners once a week throughout the month. One Gratitude Grand Prize winner will receive a $50 'thank you' gift card. Runners-up will receive "A Little Book of Thank Yous," a set of thank you note stationery, and an adorable Thanksgiving apron.

Here's how to play: Every day for the month of November, come back here to tell us what you're grateful for. The more things you list, and the more often you come back, the better your chances of winning.

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The Official Rules
To enter the this contest, reply to this post. Click on the 'reply to post' button at the top (or bottom) of that post. When the text box opens, add your reply. Once you've added your reply, click on the "Add Reply' button.


  • Posts must be made between Monday, November 1 at 2pm EST and Tuesday, November 30 at 11:59 pm EST.  
  • This contest will end on Tuesday, November 30 at 11:59 pm EST. 
  • One winner and two runners-up will be selected randomly.
  •  The winner will be posted on this thread and will be notified via CafeMom PM.
  •  Multiple replies are allowed and will increase  your chances of winning.
  • Prizes are only available to members who live in the US or Canada (excluding Quebec).
  • One grand-prize winner will receive a $50 gift card to Target, Wal-mart, or Amazon. One runner-up will receive the book "A Little Book of Thank Yous." One runner-up will receive a thank you note set. One runner-up will receive a Thanksgiving apron.

Posted by Cafe Becky


Healthy Moms

Message Friend Invite (Original Poster)

Nov. 5, 2010 at 3:56 AM


Join us for Halloween festivities in Baker Street!

Ghosts are on the loose in Baker Street!

Most of them are harmless trick-or-treaters, but beware...you might just run into a real one!

Can you help the Ghost Hunter capture them?

There are 2 yummy Halloween-themed recipes in the Shop along with some special ingredients.  These items are only available for a limited time, so grab them while you can!

We've also added over 30 new Awards and 2 new titles you can earn.

To add to the fun, we're also having a Halloween Sweepstakes!  To enter, you'll need to get a Trapped Ghost (the Ghost Hunter will explain how to get one)! 10 randomly selected players who have a Trapped Ghost in their inventory will receive a tasty real-life Halloween treat!

The new Halloween recipes and customers will be available until noon (EST) on November 1st, 2010.

Trick or treat!

EDIT: Winners for the sweepstakes have been announced. Click here to see who won!

EDIT: We're bringing back the special items and ghosts until noon on Monday, November 8th! If you haven't purchased the recipes yet or want to finish up the Halloween event Awards, now is your chance! :)

Happy ghost hunting!

Posted by  Cafe Nikki


Baker Street

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Nov. 5, 2010 at 4:31 AM

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