My husband and I have had a voluntary child protective services case for about 9 months now. Just yesterday, I met with my parenting teacher. She informed me that my social worker was planning a meeting coming up in a couple of weeks. So apparently before this meeting I have to make the choice of whether to leave my husband or face losing my kids, no ands, ifs, or buts about it. My husband has a short temper, I'm highly aware of that but he isn't abusive or anything like that to the kids, but our neighbors report all these false allegations and just make him seem worse than he really is. I've been told just since january of this year, they've received almost 100 reports on our family. Most turn out to be unfounded but it still doesn't help that there are so many. I never thought I'd have to be making this choice. My husband doesn't know yet and I dont know what to tell him or the kids. Of course the kids come first so I've already decided that I'm gonna leave my husband, but i'm just worried that i'm not gonna be able to handle being a single mother of 7. I feel like im deserting my husband and thats hard to deal with. I mean, we've had our share of major problems, and i dont love him the same as i used to but i still want to be with him. I was hoping we would be together forever, as a family, all living together in one house. Now thats gonna change and I feel like im being pressured into it. I just wish there was a way to keep all of our lives, especially the kids from being horrifically impacted by this.

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MamaS...
Nov. 9, 2010 at 1:07 PM

you should have talked to your husband about this before the deadline. so maybe you guys could have thought up a plan together. the cps is not going to spy on you but your neighbors will.  You should think about moving away from those neighbors and maybe you and your husband can still be together without those nosy spies.

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sgr123
Nov. 9, 2010 at 1:37 PM

Leaving the state, if possible after the case is closed, would be the best bet and husband would be taking anger management.

On another note, if he is abusing you and I have to wonder by things said in your post, CPS will remove the children because it is an unhealthy environment for them. 

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carri6
Nov. 9, 2010 at 2:15 PM

Hi I have had problems like yours.   as a child I was taken away put in a foster homeat the age of 7.  I was returned 2 years later.  but the devistating effect it had on my parents and brother was horrible.  we move to another state.  as an adult CPS has also come after me.  I have always fought them.  neighobrs like the drama.   move away from those neighbors.   they will make your life a living hell.   now I work at the UAW.   I work for Chyrsler.  I have a real good lawyer.  He scared CPS away the last time.  I hope they rot in Hell.  

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carri6
Nov. 9, 2010 at 2:16 PM

Check out Kid Jacked.Com for CPS investigations and the devistation it has on our families. 

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carri6
Nov. 9, 2010 at 2:22 PM

sorry to post again. I am new at this.  but my comment is this. 

It is better to lose the husband than lose your children.    Break up for a while.  Have him go to anger management.  he does have a problem if he is agressive in his behavior.  even if he isn't violent.   But lose the man.  its better than losing your kids. 

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