She was a good friend of mine, we hung out I babysat for her all the time and then two days after Christmas 2 years ago, I was cleaning out my hubbys truck and found a zip-lock bag in his glove box full of pics of her!  Some clothed most not and some where at her apartment and some where at my house! On my bed!  She had been screwing my hubby for at least 6 months!  I was so hurt that not only did he cheat, but with her, and she still had the nerve to hang out with me and be me at my house for Thanksgiving dinner.  Hubby said she needed $ and he jokingly told her he'd give her $50 for a bj, well apparently she hit the floor and then held it over his head and got $ from him whenever she needed it or threatened to tell me.  Mind you she was at our house every weekend and acted like nothing was up.  After the first time he paid her she felt bad for taking his $ so I guess they worked out a deal or something, but he was getting a** from her and paying her bills.  He went to her house almost every night when he told me he had to work late.They were having a relationship!  It still hurts after 2 years, me and hubby are still together and we've worked everything out (he cheats again and he dies) but I guess today I felt a little bit stupid and I looked her up on facebook, hoping she was still chunky(not knocking it, I'm chunky myself) unemployed or you know just anything to make me feel better and shes not, shes lost a bunch of weight and moved, got a new job and her new haircut honestly looks great.  I'm now feeling even more depressed and hoping hubby doesn't look her up and see what he gave up to stay with me and the kids.

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Nov. 10, 2010 at 10:50 AM

Woe to a woman that does that to another woman's husband....

There is hope....You two worked through it and this is wonderful...Try NEVER to focus on her again...I know it's temptation...but don't revisit the snake pit!!!!   It only eats at you and destroys your self- esteem....You are wonderful just the way you are...If you husband is smart....he won't visit her snake pit again either!!!! :)  

I'll be thinking the best for both of you!!!!

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Nov. 10, 2010 at 10:59 AM

He chose you!!!!!hugging

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Nov. 10, 2010 at 11:01 AM

Have you and your husband gone to counseling?  Sometimes, even after 2 years, issues can still linger.  I wish you and your hubby luck.  It takes a very strong woman to forgive and move on after their hubby cheats.  I hope for the best for you. 

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Nov. 10, 2010 at 11:23 AM

I would suggest some counseling too. I know this is probably a very normal feeling to have about someone else. I am glad she moved away and I pray your DH can stay faithful from now on!

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Nov. 10, 2010 at 12:25 PM

He gave nothing "UP" to be with you and the kids.  He made a choice to be where HE WANTED TO BE.  Otherwise, he would've left.  Men nowadays don't chose to be family men when they don't want to be.  Don't give her a thought at this point.  she is worth less than nothing to you.  You need to focus on HIM.  What made HIM make that choice?  If you haven't gotten to the bottom of it yet, you will always question everything. 

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