Hi Moms,

I have a serious issue and I need some help. Every Christmas morning for the last 8 years we have had family breakfast at my house. Every year, I try to get my inlaws to understand that they don't have to come over and cook, clean etc. Just come over and eat breakfast. So, I thought I would outsmart them last year and set a specific time to come over and what did they do, they came an hour early "just in case I needed help." It makes me very uncomfortable when they do that. It makes me feel that they think I am not capable of cooking breakfast or something. Granted, I am not a Julia Childs or Martha Stewart type in the kitchen and no I don't cook like they do, but I can make bacon and eggs. I mean really.

They tend to think that it is okay to come over and cook and stuff, while I was always taught that when you invite someone over for a meal, you should have the meal cooked.

So, please Moms, give me your opinions. Im just wondering what other people think. I am at a loss, and I am tired of being made to feel that I am wrong for wanting to do things a certain way.


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Nov. 12, 2010 at 12:17 PM

I think they are just trying to help...and that's sweet. At the same time I understand YOU want to make the meal FOR THEM...so, why not set the time again...but, when they arrive have specific jobs for them to do...whether that be take the kiddos outside to play, set the table or run an errand to pick up something you have "forgotten" that you need (juice or whatever). And, prior to them coming over...TELL THEM...you appreciate ALL the help they offer...but, you REALLY want to make a meal FOR THEM...without their help this year. Good Luck!

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Nov. 13, 2010 at 12:18 PM

I agree with Linda

I think they just love you so much they just want to help.

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 2:23 PM

OR....since it seems that they like to come an hour early to help you...tell them its an hour later than what time it really is LOL....

Nah, i say be upfront and forward with them...just tell them that you were brought up that the host is to have the meal cooked before the guests arrive , because the guests are just that...guests.

But that you will more than willing to help them when a meal is at there house.

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