Well-behaved women

rarely make history.

You all know which one I'm talking about.

The one who doesn't always feed her child well-balanced, 100% healthy foods.

I try. I really do. I'm not a lazy ass, I truly do care about Jossalyn's nutrition. I guess I just don't know where to start.

We don't have the money to buy a ton of different healthy foods for her. Plus, she has very specific likes and dislikes.

(Please be kind with me. I am not perfect and neither are you, Miss Perfect Pants.)

-She loves my homemade bread and most pastas. She also loves any cereal and oatmeal.

-She'll eat almost any fruit in almost any form. In fact I can't think of a fruit off the top of my head that she won't at least try and eat a little bit of.

-She hates vegetables (but don't most kids). Sometimes she eats corn, and I stress the 'sometimes'. No matter how I dress up other veggies, she just won't touch them. I've even tried offering only that to her, and she's gone hungry.

-She will not drink water unless she's dying of thirst. She only drinks milk or highly diluted juice. She never gets soda or anything with caffeine. She's already high strung as it is, imagine her bouncing off the walls! Aaaughhh!

-She likes beans and legumes and such. That's a hit or miss. Sometimes she'll eat a whole plate of them and sometimes she won't touch them.

-She doesn't really like dairy or eggs. She won't eat eggs (but neither will Randy, so) and she doesn't like cheese. She used to eat the hell out of cheese, but now she just stares at it like it's going to do a trick. She does eat yogurt though.

-She doesn't like meat of any kind. I've tried for a whole year to get her to eat chicken, beef, pork, turkey, fish...anything! She only eats chicken nuggets. It doesn't matter how you prepare it, how you dice it up, how you try to hide it...it's like she has a Meat-Seeking Sensor or something.

So basically, she eats a lot less healthy stuff than she should. And I feel like shit because of it.

Where did I go wrong? I see all these moms saying "Ohhh my child has NEVER EVER had one of those poisonous McDonald's burgers! They only eat organic cage free cruelty free FDA certified blah blah blah chickenfishnutsfruitsberries!"

Did they just come upon this healthy lifestyle out of nowhere? Am I expecting too much for my 22 year old self? I was never raised to worry about eating healthy. (And I wonder where my eating disorder comes from?!)

The truth remains that it is so damn EASY to pop something in the microwave and shove it in front of her. Anyone that says it isn't is lying their asses off. It's easy to not care. It's easy to be nonchalant. It's easy to turn your back and say "Que sera sera!"

I don't WANT to be that mother though. I don't want Joss to end up with an eating disorder like me. She's my baby, my second chance at getting it right. I don't want her to be obese. (Although the cards are not in her favor, poor kid.)

We're applying for food stamps next month. I sincerely hope we get accepted. I think having some assistance will help immensely. Right now we have to get whatever's cheap and easy. With my depression, anxiety, school, and Joss being a toddler, I just can't stand to cook and spend a lot of time in the kitchen. I wish we had a dishwasher as well. One of my sensory issues is getting water and crud on my hands. Ew!

I just want her to be healthy. Everyone else seems to have it all together, and I don't understand why I'm the odd woman out. *sigh*

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 2:18 PM

hey we are not perfect but do not beat yourself up over it, it sound like you working hard to make it happen.

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 2:20 PM

You are certainly not the odd woman out.  My kids are all picky.  The only one I don't worry about is my daughter who doesn't like meat.  She loves veggies, though, so I'll take it.  lol  My boys don't want anything healthy if they can avoid it.  You just have to keep offering it to her and hope she'll catch on one day.

As for the water, that is all my kids drink now beside their morning milk.  It was a struggle, but I got there.  It was either, they drink it or go thirsty.  They chose to drink it.  Just keep offering her healthy choices.  She will learn to eat them.  She is still young and they all seem to go through a picky stage.

If you are very concerned about her vitamins and such, pick her up a supplement.  They sell gummy vitamins at Dollar General pretty inexpensively.  That's what we buy.

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 3:40 PM

I think you are doing absolutly fine. It's not like you are feeding her Kool Aide and Fruit Loops for every meal and she is asking for carrots. My daughter just turned 3 and she is picky too. She is just starting to eat more stuff. I think all kids at this age go through a period of pickiness and it scares us because we worry that they aren't getting enough of what they need. I just stopped looking at it at the end of the day and looked at her eating at the end of the week. When I was really worried I would make her a smoothie and call it princess milk. Don't worry. It sounds like you are doing okay.

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 3:55 PM

Sounds to me like you are doing pretty darn good!  She is eating a lot of good foods and her variety will change as she gets older. My youngest son almost lived on PB&J, he's 34 and still hates veggies except corn!  Vitamins, make sure they take a vitamin each day!

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 3:57 PM

Thanks for the suggestion about the vitamins. I didn't even think about that :)

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 5:19 PM

My daughter is 5 and she is a VERRRRRRRRY picky eater. She is a chicken nugget/french fries baby. She will eat otehr things but she would rather that. She loves Hershey Cookies n Cream drink. I get her those everytime we go to the grocery store. I knew she would end up this way.When she was younger she would eat ONLY french fries. We also give her supplement drinks and Flintsones Vitamins.

You are doing the best a Mother could do. Praise her on everthing she eats or drinks..Good Luck..

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 5:22 PM

Hang in there.Any mom who tells you she hasn't struggled with a child's food issues is either insane or a liar.My daughter,who is grown now,would not eat meat in any form but cold,uncooked hot dogs (eeww!) for her first 5 years.Wouldn't ingest anything in the dairy group but ice cream.Wouldn't drink anything that didn't come out of a box with a straw stuck in it.That same child became a vegetarian at 15,drinks only water,and snacks on unsalted,unbuttered air popped popcorn.While I find both of her extremes rather sickening (ever tasted unbuttered,unsalted air-popped popcorn? Neither has anyone else because it has no taste),she is the picture of health.Perfect height/weight ratio,not one single cavity in her mouth EVER.She survived and so will Jossalyn.Take a deep breath,model good eating habits,offer her healthy options,and most of all,don't turn food into a power struggle.Good luck.

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Nov. 14, 2010 at 5:25 PM

"(ever tasted unbuttered,unsalted air-popped popcorn? Neither has anyone else because it has no taste)"



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Nov. 14, 2010 at 11:22 PM

LMAO at the popcorn comment.  The only popcorn I will eat is unbuttered and unsalted air popped popcorn.  All else is disgusting to me.  But the comment was hilarious!

To caitxrawks....Don't worry about your dd eating habits.  My oldest was the same way and she will eat anything now.  My youngest (4 yrs old) is extremely picky and only wants chicken nuggets and apples.  She drinks milk like it's going out of style but she loves water too.  I am slightly concerned that she isn't getting the nutrition that she needs so I buy her the pediasure shakes.  She drinks one of those every morning.  Keep giving your dd the foods you want her to eat.  One day she will decide to try it.  I feed my child frozen meals at times too.  Between school, working full time, and taking care of my family....there's just not enough time in the day.  I buy my dd the Eating Right Kids frozen meals from Safeway.  Usually you can pick them up 10 for $10.  It's not as great as feeding them homemade, uber healthy meals but it's better than the other ones out there.

And don't worry.  You are doing a great job Momma!

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Nov. 15, 2010 at 5:00 PM

You sound like you're doing a good job, Cait! She's getting her protein from the milk, beans, and yogurt. Have you tried some tofu? When Eleanor was younger than Joss, we just gave it to her cold, cut up into cubes to eat as finger food. Now she loves it stir-fried. Edamame (blanced soy beans) are another good option for protein. Have you tried giving her frozen vegetables still frozen? I don't know why, but Eleanor LOVES frozen peas and corn.

I have one friend who tries to buy foods that have less than five ingredients listed. Another rule of thumb is if your grandmother (well, in your young case, great-grandmother) wouldn't recognize it as food, don't eat it (farewell, Cheetos!).  It's all about balance. As long as you're showing her that her primary food is meant to be wholesome and healthy, throwing in some convenience foods every now and then isn't going to harm her.

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