I haven't been on this site for awhile now but I am having this issue with my husband and kids and this is the first place I thought to seek help.  My husband is not a very hands on Dad.  He does what he has to and that's it.  I raise the kids 98%of the time.  On a rare occasion he will become "Parent" and try to reprimand the kids on behaviors I simply don't take as serious as he does. I pick my battles simply said.  He is convinced it's us against them attitude and we need to be in full control for teen life.  Our kids are 9 and 6.  Our kids are very well behaved and I have been told so by many people.  They are respectful and kind to other's.  They share and even give in when the other child is much younger than them. They are also kids! They leave thing son the floor and forget to do things like feed the dog.  We can remind they nightly can't we?

So how do I deal with my husband this part time parenting thing. Where his rules are not my rules and my rules are followed most frequently?  AS it is if he gives them a reprimand that I wouldn't normally do, then they tell on him to me.  I can see where they are coming from. I don't want to raise my kids to do something just because we say so if they no it's not right or the way we do it. ( does that make sense)?

 I am sending this out  Especially to military wives in general since there are times when Dad is gone for a long time and then to pop back in to your lives to become a parent I think is very confusing for the kids.

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Nov. 15, 2010 at 11:22 AM

I think you need to have a sit down talk with him, make sure it is a neutral time when everyone is calm. Explain your feels on the situation and why you handle situations the way you do. Also explain that it is hard of the child that when he came home their is just suddenly new rules and they don`t understand that. Try to work together and come up with a compromise

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