I have learned that once you have kids, your days will never ever ever ever be the same. Every day is different. No similar days. Although when they are new and smelling good, it looks like you live your days in deja vu constantly.

Having teens teaches you to expect the unexpected everyday. The drama and the crushes all change from one day to the other. There is nothing set in stone, rules change, friendships change, moods change constantly, and apparently the kids change too. That little boy who ran to you and said ''Mommy I love you" is now trying to stay away from you when you take him to the mall, will walk 15 steps behind you, just in case someone sees him, he was NOT shopping with mommy. And that sweet little princess who one day said "you are my best friend mommy" will in one breath say " MOOOOOM you are not cool OK, stop singing in the car"....

There are also the heartbrakes, the first crush that crushes their little hearts, but you can't mend because they have to do it themselves.. The fights you can't be involved in because they need to learn how to stand up for themselves, even though you want to go to school and beat up the kid who is talking about them, bullying them, hurting them in anyway, you have to stay away.

Then there are those moments when things seem normal, when you sit down to have breakfast on the weekends, or dinner during the week. When funny anecdotes from school are the main topic, and you get to know them a bit more.

Kids don't remain the same, they change, they will be their own person. They will love you in their own special way, especially during Christmas time, haha, but they will still love you no matter what.

I have 3 wonderful teens, 2 boys and a girl. My boys hug me and tell me they love me, that I'm the bestest mom ever ha! But we have heated arguments that only end in me putting my foot down and enforcing rules, and them giving up. My girl hugs me and expects me to be there by her, she calls me a crazy woman, but at the end of the day, I'm the last one she talks to about her problems.. we've had our heated arguments, ending again, in me putting my foot down and enforcing rules, she gives up... They have made mistakes, they have been brats and awful at times, they have broken rules, they have told me they hate me, they have gone to bed pissed off at me, they have threaten to leave home, they have spoken their minds with out thinking first and hurt feelings, they have disobeyed grounding rules, they have been complete jerks. In other words, they have been TEENS, normal TEENS. I still love them, I still give my life for them anyday.

I would never change one thing in my life, not one decision that I have made. I vowed my kids would not make the same mistakes I made, so far so good, but they will make some big ones one day, I will be there to help them through it.

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Nov. 16, 2010 at 12:23 PM

Gives me hope chica since I'm on the other end ofthe spectrum. :)

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