7 months ago my husband had an affiar. i chose to stay with him and try to work things out. the woman now lives 9 hours away and we have no contact with her at all. since the affair, my husband has stayed close to home, and keeps me up dated on where he is and when he will be back. earlyer today he left on a trip and he will be gone for two or three days. he will be an hour away from where she lives and i an scared of what he could do.

we talked about it and he promised me that he wouldn't have any contact with her, that he wouldn't do anything that could hurt me. i am trying to trust. over the last 7 months he has done everything i have asked of him. i know that he wants our marriage to work and he knows that if he cheats on me again i will leave.

i am trying to trust him. he has shown me that he loves me and that i am very important to him. when he is in town, or on a short trip out of town, i trust him now. but i don't know how to handle him being so far away, so close to her, and gone for so long. i want to trust, but i am so afraid of being hurt again.

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colum...
Nov. 17, 2010 at 10:16 PM

i was cheated on by my spouse several times and although he admitted the first time (he got caught) he was more careful the next time i didnt find out about the second affair until the chick claimed she was pregnant although she wasnt it still hurt he promised not to do it again but he did over and over all i can say is be strong but stick to your word if he does it again leave. dont take anymore.

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annelis
Nov. 17, 2010 at 10:35 PM

you must remain strong go with your gut!!!

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