Hey ladies,

I wish I could be my (typical) bubbly, full of life and positive energy self. But unfortunately the last few weeks of my life has locked away that woman I used to know. I'm back on CM for the 2nd (maybe 3rd) time. I loved being a member, but life became too busy for me to keep up and I deactivated my page. However, the recent trials that I'm going through have left me with no where else to turn. Who else would ease my fears, send virtual hugs, wipe virtual tears, and reach out in concern? No one better to do that except other moms. Some may feel my pain, some may be in my shoes,some may sympathize but one thing is for certain, all will have compassion because that's what moms do. 

Any-who, getting to my issue...about 3 weeks ago my 6yr old Kourtney started having multiple (3 or more a day) seizures. We have been in and out of hospitals, had 1/2 a dozen tests ran, started meds, experiemented with the dosage and even spoke with neurologist and no one can figure out the cause. The basic conclusion is that she has suddenly developed epilepsy. This has been the hardest couple of weeks of my family's life. To watch my perfectly healthy child who led a normal life just spiral into a sudden illness. Now I'm stuck between having faith and accepting reality. In limbo about quiting my job or becoming full time mom. Understandably, I need some advice, words of encouragement and support...

I hope you ladies won't let me down sad  

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Nov. 18, 2010 at 1:53 PM

I am sorry you are having a hard time.  I , too, have found that just knowing someone out there understands, is helpful.  I have no words of wisdom about what you are going through, but I will say this about working.  I have been a sahm for 16 years.  My children are healthy and  my dh's job has made it possible to do this.  No other time has it been more important for you to be there for your daughter.  If you have the resources, income, insurance and emotional support, leave your job.  This may not be my place, but you asked!  If working is a must, maybe you can take a leave until things settle down?  I will send you that vitual hug !  What ever your decision is, it will be what is best for your family. 

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Nov. 18, 2010 at 2:01 PM

I would look into supportive groups built around Seizures in young children.

If you are able to be a full time stay at home mother, than do so. But, if you are a single mother then I would not be quick on the quitting decision.

Do keep the faith. Even in limbo. God truely does not close one door without opening the next. And, he does NOT give you more than he sees fit to hand over. He knows what you can endure ;)

I agree with the girl above on taking leave if you are unable to leave your job. You may be able to do a temp. leave and go back when you feel right. Multiple big companies have flex scheduling and time off routines :)


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Nov. 18, 2010 at 2:08 PM

Thanks ladies for commenting (and not looking and moving right along)...

Currently I'm on FML from work. I am married, my husband makes pretty decent $ and we are all under his insurance but I'm afraid to just quit my job and leave him overwhelmed with our monthly bills. We just bought a house in June and have 4 other kids...so as u can imagine, all of our funds are needed. However, I run my own event planning business part time which could provide some income, but it's not steady clientele.

It's hard to make such hasty decisions, but I know my family needs to come 1st before anything!  

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Nov. 18, 2010 at 2:16 PM

I am sorry that you have been having such a hard time!  All I can say is, take everything one little step at a time.  Try not to look too far ahead, or you can become even more overwhelmed.  Sometimes when things are at their worst, the most I can do is just concentrate on taking a step, and then the next, and then the next....and eventually all of those little steps lead you out of the dark valley, and you start to see the sun again.

We are here for you, and if you ever need to talk, feel free to PM me.  I know we don't know each other, but I know what it's like when things look so bleak, and you just need someone to listen and understand.  


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