I keep reading in posts about how someone is a good mom or a bad mom.. and I would like to ask the people who judge mothers what rate system they are using, because as far as I am concerned, everyone is a good mother, unless, you killed your kids or just beat them and abuse them just because you can.... that makes you an awful human being...  Other than that, I think everyone is different. Everyone loves, cuddles, talks to, disciplines their kids differently... I don't think there is a right or a wrong way.. because the decisions you make in your household doesn't necessarily mean they apply to another household..  everyone does things different... That's it.

So when I see replies where one mother tells the other that they need help with parenting classes, I can't help but think the person saying that is a moron.. You might try to let your In Real Life friends know that they might be going to easy on a grounding, or on the potty training, or discipline, because you are a witness, you can see, you are part of their lives. In Cafemom, it's really not applicable.. Most women here do not know how the person behind the PC really lives or is.. a get together once a year, does not tell you anything about a person at all... Some may be badasses in here, but in real life, they are just another person in the room.

So, telling another mother they suck at parenthood is not cool, it's just unnecessary. It makes that mom, the one judging, look like a bitter, sour, goodytwoshoes, know it all, kinda person.. and sooner than later, people will take her replies as low blows because she thinks she knows EVERYTHING.. cause it's her way or no way at all(A total bully).

So I go to bed everynight, knowing that I have made the right decisions for my family, in every aspect. And when I don't, I'm ready to face the consequences and move on. No one can ever tell me I'm a bad mother, no one. I don't care what experience you had, I don't care how you grew up in 5 seconds and became Betty Crocker/Martha Stewart. I have my own story, I have my own experience which I will use as I see fit in the decisions I make.

Never allow anyone tell you, I don't care how popular they are in the group, that you are a bad mother

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kkbird
Nov. 18, 2010 at 3:41 PM

total agreement!!!!!    take care

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M4LG5
Nov. 18, 2010 at 5:20 PM

YES! 

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20_ma...
Nov. 18, 2010 at 8:38 PM

Amen!!!!!!!!!!!

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