Emotionaly, I think this way is best. I feel like (even though I know it isn't logical) that if I get pregnant again, in some way, I will have my baby back. I know it sounds crazy but that is how I feel and I think that this is what I must do to "cope". All I can think of is that I want my baby back.

  TTC is confusing enough as it is, but now I have to figure out when I will be fertile & ovulate. I am using OPKs and BD just about everyday..which is always fun! So even if I don't get pregnant before AF shows, atleast we have enjoyed trying.  

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Nov. 18, 2010 at 7:14 PM

Hey sweetie, I am so sorry for you loss. I totally understand you wanting to try to have another baby right now. But I STRONGLY suggest you give it some time. You need time to heal and mourn the loss of THIS baby. A lot of times people try again to "replace" the baby they just lost. You dont wanna do that. They are/would be two different babies. You dont want the baby you are TTC to carry the burden thru out life of being a "replacement" to his/her sibling. Hang in there, things will heal as time goes on. Hugs to you.

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Nov. 18, 2010 at 10:20 PM

Thank you for replying! I know it sounds like I am trying to replace the pregnancy I lost, but I really know better.  I actually had a chemical pregnancy and there wasn't a sac in my uterus the night I started bleeding. So really, my baby passed before it even implanted. I know that I lost what would have been my child, but in some ways I feel like there was never a baby there to begin with. It is all so confusing.

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