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* I am sure you can agree with me that cyber bullying is becoming a problem on Cafemom! I don't get the "thrill" in stalking someone or bullying others. I mean we are on Cafemom obviously because we are MOMS....when do you have the time or effort to put into bullying others? It is pathetic really.....

At FRIENDS INC. we have a zero tolerance for bullying and we stand behind our members if any of them encounter this problem! Please feel free to join us if you like but beware of ANTI-BULLYING groups because the smart will learn over half are the ones who throw the stones! Please read below on cyber bullying and instill some knowledge into yourself.....and thats word!*

http://www.cafemom.com/group/111778

What is a Cyber Bully:

A cyberbully is someone who uses technology to harass, embarrass, intimidate, or stalk someone else. The methods used can include emails, instant messaging, text messages sent via cell phones, digital photos and all other means of electronic communications.

The cyberbully can send:

• angry and vulgar argumentative messages

• cruel, offensive, and insulting messages

• threats and false promises

The cyberbully can:

• post secrets or embarrassing information,

including pictures, for everyone to see

• post gossip or rumors for the explicit purpose

of damaging the person’s reputation

• send out messages pretending to be the victim

in an attempt to damage that person’s

friendships

• alienate the victim from online groups

How to stop Cyber bullying:

The first step is to stop responding to the cyber bully. Do not reply to emails, posts, IM's or text messages. This is what the bully wants. They want you to engage with them. They want to manipulate you into responding.

If you respond in any way that is emotional or lets them know that they are getting to you and are able to make you upset it only encourages the cyber bully.

Remember, bullies often suffer from low self-esteem and they want to feel better about themselves. Instead of doing something positive or succeeding at something or making a new friend a bully has learned to make themselves feel better by controlling, abusing and tearing down others. This gives them a sense of control and power they don't have in their lives. Most bullies are actually quite weak and the same is true of cyber bullies.

If you respond in a way that lets the bully know that you are angry, upset or afraid they will only be happy because they have managed to control your emotional state. Even if you do feel like that don't give the cyber bully the satisfaction and encouragement by letting them know.

It is especially important to not respond emotionally because this could make you send a reply that you might regret later. Messages sent on the Internet are almost impossible to take back. If you lash back in anger you could find yourself the one who is being accused of being a cyber bully and the tables could be turned against you.

Bullies are hoping to get you upset so you slip up and make a mistake. Don't send flames and don't get into flame wars. (Flames are nasty, sometimes threatening emails.)

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Restl...
Nov. 18, 2010 at 7:30 PM

I, could't agree with you more, I love the group...blowing kisses

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lil.sis
Nov. 18, 2010 at 8:05 PM

Sound great!!! I dont see what ppl get out of cyber bullying. How do they have the time to do the cyber bullying with a family at home. I love the group we have created and we do stand behind out members if they are getting bullyed.

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daye62
Nov. 18, 2010 at 8:58 PM

Thank you for this post;we all needed to review the methods that bullies use.After years of using this site peacefully I have recently become the victim of a bully by challenging a member of a group who is being dishonest.In retaliation she has flooded CM with journal posts and messages advising everyone who will listen to blacklist me and smearing my name.You're right about them wanting a response.The more I asked,and then demanded,that she cease the more she persisted.Finally I have decided to let her run with it;she will eventually get tired.Isn't this sad between grown women?Lots of moms have left CM because of this but I refuse to give anyone that kind of power.Thanks again;I needed to vent.

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hi.ev...
Nov. 18, 2010 at 9:00 PM

daye I know a few of my friends have left because of this....its sad really...well not sad more like pathetic

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doll2660
Nov. 19, 2010 at 1:29 AM

Look at the above poll. That says it all. Daye,please feel free to apply to our group FRIENDS INC. you will be welcome and safe. I am one of four amazing Admin who help me look out for the wonderful BFF's in the group. Sadly today another friend of mine has left cafemom because as she said they found me again and I am done. That's two this month. This is a place to gather for moms and some selfish,immature people choose to make it a battleground. It is not tolerated in our group and there is no second chance. If we find someone that enters to harass a member they are deleted and blocked. We know have to double check profiles so we don't get any stalkers or bullies and that takes time away from the group. Bullying is very real and hurts. Children have died because of it.  Cafemom would be a much better place if it was stopped. Great post Maz, my fellow Bully Hunter.

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