I just got done reading some journals from other mom's on here, and I'm in shock... There are so many women out there who can't conceive, and wish more than anything to have a child of there own... then there are women out there having babies no problem, and leaving them home alone by themselves to go party and get drunk and open there legs to some random guy.... I know we all may have our needs as a woman, but you should never put your children in danger just to satisfy your own needs... When you decided to have a child, you decided to put there lives before your own- but in many cases, unfortionately these immature mothers decide to do otherwise. I watch 16&pregnant and just want to cry sometimes... Some of those mothers do an amazing job juggeling everything, and then there are other ones who leave there 2 week old baby on a bed screaming and crying because they're too tired to pick up their baby, or leave their baby in a car with the doors open as they run around outside arguing and fighting with there boyfriend/baby daddy/one-night-sand, whoever- ur lucky no one steals ur car with ur baby inside!!!!...I wish I could pick those babies up and give them to a family who would love and protect them the way they should be cared for... I was a 9-1-1 operator and have heard way too much, yet I still get suprised and deeply saddened by the way some mothers decide to 'care' for their chldren

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Nov. 20, 2010 at 12:48 AM

I'm with you.  Children should be treasured and treated with respect so they can grow up to be mentally healthy. Every child deserves a stable and loving home.  I know we as parents aren't perfect and sometimes we do or say things that we wish we can take back , but if you don't even realize what you are doing wrong, that's really sad.  Parenting is the toughest job in the world and it is a job that should be done to the best of our ability whenever possible.  The older I get the more I miss my kids when they are out and about.  School takes almost a third of your childs life until they graduate and then the other third is spent sleeping.  The remainder is shared by us and the villiage so the least we can do is try and make the most of our time.  I love my babies and I want to push them as far as they can go in life but more importantly I want them to trust that I will protect them both physically and mentally even if it means sacrificing myself or anything else around me.  The way I see is I was entrusted with my children and I will try very hard not dissappoint them no matter how frustrated or tired I am.

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Nov. 20, 2010 at 2:04 PM

hang in there there  are people like me and you  that do raise  their kids like treasures but i did homdaycare so i know what  you mean      prayers

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Nov. 20, 2010 at 3:06 PM

There are many things we can do as adult women who are raising children, or have raised children, to help those young girls who are having babies before they are ready. I worked in daycare for many years bestowing love on other women's children knowing that I might be giving them the only love they get. Now I work with teenagers and every chance I get I try to give appropritate love and advice to keep them from making the mistake of having children too soon. It does no good to have the emotion if it is not acted on. Church is one place to start youth groups are always looking for advisors. Schools are also looking for volunteers. The boys and girls clubs are looking for help. We can make a difference. Just think, if each one of us was able to keep one girl from having a baby too soon, or one boy from becoming a father too early, how many lives would be improved. Prayer is great too.

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Nov. 20, 2010 at 5:41 PM

I so wish they had a like button on here.

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Nov. 20, 2010 at 6:59 PM

I was going to say a lot in regards to this... but I won't....... my view on this is different than most parents and I won't use your post as a way to start a heated debate lol.  All I will say is this.......

The reason that show "teen mom" and others like it, are on is to show teens how important it is NOT to get pregnant so young.  They show how hard it is for those parents that are young and the mistakes they made.  Teen pregnancy was extremely high when I was young (in the 90s) and since these shows have come out... the stats have dropped........ at least in my state.  So these shows have a purpose at least! :)

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Nov. 20, 2010 at 7:54 PM

It's not just young teen moms.  I actually know a woman in her early 30s doing this very crap right now.  It's infuriating.

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Nov. 20, 2010 at 11:07 PM

Although Im with you , your comment on leaving a baby screaming and crying on a bed is fine as long asthe baby is lying securely and only for a limited time with the mother watching.   Its exhausting and sometimes its safer to leave a baby crying for a few minutes than pick a baby up and drop them because you dont have the energy in your arms due to lack of sleep..  Still I don't think its responsible to get pregnant at 16 . I have a friend whom did at 17 and married her boyfriend she notified me yesterday that her daughter just gave birth to her first grandson.. At 45 I just gave birth to my 4th and he is a miracle....and a blessing.

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 12:59 PM

I'm not just singeling out teen moms, they just happen to be my example-  there are 25 year old prostitues who leave their children in the middle of the night alone, or leave them with some drug dealer while they go  'work' and never think twice about it...  also, it is not okay to leave a 2 week old screaming and crying on a bed-  maybe a 4 month old, or 3month old, but a 2week old is screaming and crying for a reason... I know its exhausting, I have a 4 month old who is very very fussy and cries alot... and I let her cry it out here and there, but not at 2 weeks old... all I'm simply saying is there are so many women out there popping out babies left and right, and not appreciating their children for what they are... while at the same time, theres families who love their children more than anything else in the world, and their child gets cancer or dies in a car accident... I just have so much love for my beautiful baby girl, and I appreciate her for what she is- a miracle... like my title says, 'I WISH people were more appreciative for what they have'. It breaks my heart for the children, not the parents.

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