Melissa...'s Journal

Grief of Losing My Husband

Last night I got my memorial tattoo for you. It took four hours. It hurt, but in a strange way the pain was comforting. Oddly it felt better to hurt in a physical way rather then all of the emotional pain I've been going through since your death. I know that sounds really strange, but it was almost like a challenge for me, and it felt really good to be able to do it without so much as a whimper. If feels good to know that I've been through some really tough pain, and now I know I can go through anything.

When the tattoo guy finished, and I saw your name on my arm, I almost cried. It feels really good to have a part of you with me always. I can look at your name and feel comfort, and no one can ever take that away from me. It'll be with me until I die, and that feels good. So, here it is. Wish I could show you for real.


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Nov. 21, 2010 at 5:39 PM

It's beautiful hun, and I know that he is smiling down on you. *hugs*

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 6:18 PM

I'm glad that you memorialized him in a way that brings you comfort.  Very cool. . 

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 7:17 PM

That is gorgeous

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 7:35 PM


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Nov. 21, 2010 at 8:01 PM

that is amazingly beautiful :)

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 8:12 PM

That's truly Beautiful! He will be with you forever in your memories, in your heart and now there!

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 10:20 PM


 I am not a Tattoo person but, that is Awesome! i am happy that this will bring you some kind of peace- i know Tim is So Proud of you for taking on the challenge- My continued thoughts & prayers are with you & your kids- Take Care

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 11:43 PM

It's beutiful, bless you in your healing.  I've always felt that those we've loved who have passed on stay close to us to help with healing.

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Nov. 22, 2010 at 1:11 AM

It's very beautiful.

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Nov. 22, 2010 at 1:39 AM

It's so cool...the colors are great and I know Tim would (does) love it!

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