Yes I am a stay at home mom.
Yes, my job is taking care of the kids, cleaning and cooking, and making the home run smoothly

No,normally I don't complain entirely unless things get out of hand and then I would like a little help. 

But once, just once, don't I deserve a day off??
Wouldn't it just make sense to have my birthday of all days to be the day to get off??  This year is the first year I got birthday wishes from friends and family for once no one forgot... but from my kids and husband I get this:

An alarm to wake me up at 6:30 for no reason, for my husband to roll over and go back to sleep. My one year old wakes up, but sits in his crib for 20 minutes before he whines to be let loose.  So I'm officially up by 6:50.  The nigth before I made it explicitly clear I wanted to get my homework done before today so I got the chance to relax. Instead he decides to distract me with "special kisses" I didn't even want...he did... So obviously - no homework got finished and now I'm in a funk and having a horrible time trying to finish this paper which is due today! 
I come downstairs...the house is a mess.  Laundry is everywhere, dishes are stacked up - the usual I find almost every morning that I am responsible for taking care of because lord knows no one else will. 
Instead of getting breakfast or lunch made for me - we go to Waffle House... wow... I can make my own waffles, which I personally find better than any resteraunts.  The only thing they had was good syrup. 
Fortunately my one year old decided to take a nap, so I got the luxury of snuggling with him on the couch to take a nap too, but then my 6 year old decides to curl up on my lap and ask me a million questions.  If it was just cuddling so I could sleep, there would've been no problems, but instead I get, "What are maggots?" "Why are these people trying to have flies lay eggs there?" ... Thank you Discovery Channel.  Where was the hubby?? Upstairs playing video games and online poker... 
So I'm exhausted, had a craptasic breakfast, and no nap so now I'm cranky.  Where has he been the rest of the day when I've had a billion questions thrown at me and working my butt off again to keep up with the weekend mess with everyone being home? Upstairs playing video games. 
I also had to make the kids lunch, but of course they couldn't agree on what they wanted and it was of course while I had just sat down to start working on my paper...Needless to say, the paper got postponed and I spent hours trying to fix lunch and then clean it up.  Then handle the fight between the kids over who had what toy and who got to watch what on TV for a certain legnth of time...  Never once did the husband come down to handle anything...  Surprisingly he came down to make dinner, but let it be known - its his favorite dinner...not mine...  Steak. Thats it. Nothing else. Just steak.  If there is anything else, it'll probably be  a cheap knock off noodle packet that tastes like rubber.  Then he gets mad at me that I'm upset and frustrated that I'm still doing everything! 
If I don't treat him like the King of the world on his birthday then theres serious issues too...but I guess I don't "deserve" the recipricol.  Granted yes, yesterday we went to see Harry Potter, but he ruined yesterday pretty much for me too, almost to the point I didn't want to go, and then we ended up sitting away from each other, so we didn't really go "together."  And to top it off, some random idiot at the theather coughed in my face, and now I've been hacking my head off and trying to nurse a sore throat all day. 

I guess I should stop griping, do the dishes, and then finish this paper thats going to take who knows how long and get it turned in before midnight (hopefully). 

At least this year, my mom and dad didn't forget it was my birthday, and my sister and niece sang me the most obnoxious versionS of Happy Birthday known to man which brigtened up my day for a little while :). 

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 6:24 PM

Damn, girl I feel your pain. First of all Happy birthday!! That same stuff happens at my house on a regular basis. Like you I go to school at night and my hubby work days. When I get home from school @ 8pm I have to cook clean and get kids fready for school in the morning plus my own homework. My hubby gets home @ 5 and where do I find him when I get home playin Xbox!!!  One day U just gonna have to do notjing for real and c how he feels

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 6:58 PM

I kinda understand... I just had a baby in July and my birthday was in October, and I just wanted to take it easy on that day, but our daughter is a pretty fussy baby... so of course, she cried for almost 2 hours straight- I even cried myself... But this might either piss you off lol, or make you feel better- just be grateful you have children of your own, a husband who loves you, and that you get to stay home... you have a house to clean, you have clothes/laundry- and the water and power it takes to wash them, the money to afford going out to breakfast, etc.... I know its probably not what you want to hear right now, you just want to vent- and I completely understand... I hope maybe it brightens ur day up a little bit :-/ and Happy Birthday :)

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 8:06 PM

Thank you both for the birthday wishes :)
@ alexanderSAHM - it is always nice to have the bright side of the things pointed out when situations are frustrating :)

@ ruffjewle - I'm sorry you have to go through this too. I have tried to do nothing & it made the next day even worse because he just didn't care and everything piled up... He's even made the comment "I wasn't goign to do laundry and was just going to let it sit til you did it." If I go on a trip with the kids and have the house clean before I leave, he'll go to a hotel so he doesn't "mess" anything up. Its quite pathetic really....

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