My husband wants to divorce me. He has a new girl friend, found her before he told me he wanted to divorce. He says he doesn't love me anymore. Plain and simple. He just quits and no, he doesn't want to work on it. There are quite a few things I could say about him to make you believe he is a horrible person and has been horrible to me. But I'm tired of talking about those things. I just want him back. I know this could potentially be great for me. An opportunity to find someone who will actively love me and everything, but I just want him back. I feel terrible about still wanting him to want to want to fix it. 

Just, how do I get over him? How do I stop loving him? How do I stop wanting what we had? What we could have, if he wanted to try.. I had been doing so well about not thinking about him, but today undid it for me. He came over to see the kids for like 30 minutes, and while he was here I couldn't stop thinking about how much I want him to just come home and be daddy again, be sweetie again, be babe again. I kept wanting to hug him the whole time he was here, but he doesn't want it. I am the only one who wants it. I hate that I can't stop loving him and hoping for him to come home. I know he isn't gonna come around, but at the same time I can't really  accept that to be the truth. 

He has been out of the house for 2 weeks now, we had been arguing about this for 2-3 weeks before that. Counseling didn't help.

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Nov. 21, 2010 at 10:10 PM

im sorry that i dont have some type of great advice for u. all i can say speaking as a daughter that watched my parents fight, heard it everything i think u and ur kids will be better off. u will find a great person who loves u for u

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Nov. 22, 2010 at 1:09 AM

well i wish i could tell u that ong its so easy and u will get over him but that will be a lie u have kids with him u married him that will leave a mark forever and u will forver see him in ur kids  and im sorry he found someone knew but thats on him not u just be the best you you can be and when it fails with them ull be better for it and when he wants to come back u might find that u grew he didnt and u doint want him u will always love him but udont have to always be inl ove with him

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