so my story is: my kids father is down south, and im in nj. i didnt want to go back down there to him cus i felt he wasn't ready to be back with me. but i had made up my mind an said i was goin back to him and we talked about it. i found a good man my new boo; and i dont want to give him up if it's not worth it.... i just found out that my kids father is seein a girl with kids, they sleepin in my bed... the money im suppose to get from him most likely goin to her we have 3 kids to gether and i havent seen money from him in months. im gonin to take back whats mine. and i dont care where she go and how she gets there but she gots to go.... by any means so i need to know ladies should i do this even though i am be i just want some advice plz thank u.....

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Nov. 22, 2010 at 12:31 PM

I understand how you feel. (trust me I do)  But if you have "moved on" so to speak with this new boo...... then what does it matter what the kids father does to move on with his???  I understand that you guys were talking about getting back together..... but would you REALLY want to move back and constantly wonder if he is still seeing this other behind your back???   I do understand the " HE NEEDS TO BE HELPING YOU WITH HIS OWN KIDS" thing but why go back to something you weren't happy with.???   Better yourself with a new boo and a loving home for your kids.  Let the old be the old.   Hope this gives ya alittle more to think about.... take care

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Nov. 22, 2010 at 12:45 PM

@kkbird thank u cus i hear everything ur sayin....

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Nov. 22, 2010 at 12:52 PM

Alot of time we (as women) tend to go back to what we are use to.... not what we desire or deserve.  We continue to let our self worth be put on the backburner and the we end up losing sight of who we once were before them.  Yrs of mouthy verbal beat downs tend to stay in our minds longer and we have to work hard to get back to us.  We were something before them and will be something after them........ we need to remember that..... I had 8 yrs that I am working on... its a long process but gonna be worth it.

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