I came across this post in The Stir http://thestir.cafemom.com/pregnancy/3322/shes_pregnant_and_im_jealous

and I am trying to decipher my feelings about it. I made a post not too long ago about how I am annoyed that I see pregnant ladies everywhere and so on. I had a miscarriage and I think it is normal in the time afterwards to be sensitive about the subject of newly pregnant people and people that you are friends with becoming pregnant.

I am feeling a shift in my attitude though. Lately I am thinking about how I would want others to feel when I do get pregnant again. I couldn't look at my cousin 2 weeks ago, she is pregnant with her second child. But she did have a miscarraige 6 months ago. Do I have the right to be biter at her when she isn't flaunting it in front of me, she has known loss and is just elated that she is pregnant again. Now I love seeing her growing belly, out of nowhere. I am trying to eavesdrop on her conversations at family dinners, just a week or two ago I was avoiding hearing her voice at all costs.

When I become pregnant again, I am still going to have friends on cafemom that have gone through loss and will they be bitter at me? When us ladies in suppport groups get pregnant, are we going to start avoiding each other for fear of annoying someone or making someone even more bitter?

Are you angry or bitter right now or were you and now you are over it? How are you dealing with your feelings? How do you want people to act when you are pregnant again? How do you know that the person you are upset at for saying their feet hurt while huge and pregnant (can seem insensitive after our losses) hasn't gone through loss herself? Would you give her sympathy if she went through 4 miscarriages before this pregnancy? If it is her first child and hasn't had a loss before, does that make her ungrateful for her pregnancy if she complains about something?

I am just thinking outloud but would like to hear your thoughts on this.

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