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Question: do you leave your children in your car?

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yes only for a few min

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All my life I have taken care of children.. I am really good with the tiny one under 3.. & I would do anything to keep them safe. It has always been the only thing i am good at.. children love me because I am willing to plays dolls or cars or most anything & I would never hurt them.. Oct 6th was a unusual day for me not my normal routine.. (note weeks before this I complained to my mom & fiancee & doctor that I was becoming forgetful losing keys, debit cards, even my address.) I am unsure why but that entire day I felt upset. also I was sleep deprived. Normally my finance takes our son to daycare & @ the same time picking up my 3 yr old taking her to school. However the day before she was taken out of school because they will not change children & I had no one else to do it.So  that afternoon my 7 & 3 yr old were in daycare & my son was with me.. he fell asleep in his rear facing car seat.. I went to work on auto pilot I had forgotten him in the car.. what kinda person does this you say? ..? I stay awake staring at my sleeping son wondering the same thing, I don't really want to eat but I do, I keep saying my son could have died. I am so very thankful he didn't. I love my children very much I guess I let the stress of working, caring for 4 children, my 2 ex-husbands,  money issues & other issues  get the best of me. I will lose my job of 5 years because of this because I am a bus aide. I have no GED, no other skills.. with my learning issues I will need to get help. I have never been in trouble with the law it is scary. I am indicated from DCFS this goes on your record for 5 yr or even more, so all people will know is I was indicated & not what happened.. they will think I abused my precious children.. I would never hurt my children.. I would never intentionally leave them alone. I am now taking parenting classes, going to counseling, & have seen my doctor. So to answer the question who would do this: I pray none does it on purpose your child could die or kidnapped.. & I pray you always check your vehicle more than once to see if you have a sleeping angel. i found on the internet many children are left in vehicles alone..http://www.kidsandcars.org/



KIDS AND CARS maintains a national database tracking  deaths and  injuries to children left unattended in or around motor vehicles.    Currently no federal or state agency is collecting information related to deaths and injuries that occur as non-traffic incidents on private property.
Statistics from the KIDS AND CARS database

Year

Incidents

Children Involved

Fatalities

2010(as of 11/03/2010)

392

499

212

2009

587

761

263

2008

687

954

204

2007

725

942

232

2006

598

742

219

2005

454

553

226

2004

502

607

174

2003

610

762

189

2002

435

602

133

2001

403

524

124

PLEASE I beg you never even for a few min. leave your child alone.. & if you are sitting for a child put something in the car to remind you there is a child with you.

Also watch out for little ones in front of & behind your vehicle many children have died this way, LOCK your vehicles some children have died playing in the vehicle without anyone knowing they were there.

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549_2.html?sid=ST2009030602446

note: someone found my son in my car, which I am thankful for, called the police & dcfs.. I go to court on child endangerment charges Dec. 20th. My biggest fear is my four children will lose their mom over an accident.

An examination of media reports about the 494 child vehicular heat stroke deaths for a 13 year period (1998 through 2010) shows the following circumstances:

  • 51% - child "forgotten" by caregiver (253 Children)
  • 30% - child playing in unattended vehicle (150)
  • 17% - child intentionally left in vehicle by adult  (86)
  • 1% --  circumstances unknown (5)

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Vinta...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 1:55 AM

I am so sorry this happened! It seems to be an epidemic in this ever-busy world. They say you are supposed to put your purse and anything else you will need inside work in the back beside the baby so you have to get back there.

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LadyS...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 2:34 PM

I am sorry this happened to you and it is easier than some people want to realise or admit.

My hubby and I have four children, when my oldest 3 were little we went to my moms house for Christmas and between grabbing all the usual childhood paraphernalia, kids, and gifts we left our sleeping 2 yr old in the car. I thought he grabbed her, he thought I did. I came in and handed the 6 month old to my my as I set up the portable playpen and She was like where is "so and so?" Hubby and I both freaked! Luckily She was only alone in the car for about a minute or so and was still sleeping when hubby went out to get her.

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makel...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 8:06 PM "what kinda person does this you say?"

From http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549_2.html?sid=ST2009030602446

"In the last 10 years, it has happened to a dentist. A postal clerk. A social worker. A police officer. An accountant. A soldier. A paralegal. An electrician. A Protestant clergyman. A rabbinical student. A nurse. A construction worker. An assistant principal. It happened to a mental health counselor, a college professor and a pizza chef. It happened to a pediatrician. It happened to a rocket scientist. "

I'm voting this popular because this could happen to anyone.

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Zanjea
Nov. 27, 2010 at 9:37 PM

What happened?  How was it that you got in trouble?  You left that part of the story out....

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Heath...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 10:44 PM

What happened?  How was it that you got in trouble?  You left that part of the story out....

 

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No she didn't.. She left her child in the car when she went into work. She explained it.

OP, I'm sorry you are going through this, but as someone stated, it can happen to anyone.  Especially if you do something over and over and over again.. and one thing changes.. 

 

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palex...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 11:34 PM

I actually did that too. I was babysitting my niece and nephews and had to take my nephew to kirate class. I told my husband to keep out dd who was about 6 months old. But she was VERY tired and at the last minute I grabbed and took her with me. We get to class and we go in. We are there about 5 or 10 minutes. When we came out, my niece and I saw the car and both remembered. I ran to the car and she was still sleeping.

 

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Sailo...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 11:37 PM

hose of you that don't know a latch key kid is a school aged child that has keys and supervises themselves for awhile as parents work). Well, my son mentioned in school that their father had left us and that he was nervous about being left alone and the principal called. I told her that I was well informed of my rights and that providing I have taught my children all necessary safety precautions (window, front door, back door in case of fire.GET OUT FIRST and then call for help) and that they know to dial 911 in case of an emergency and are in constant contact with me either through phone calls or text messaging, that my kids know what to do, they've just never had to take care of themselves til now. Until she realized how informed I was and how informed my children are and she checked for herself about the guidelines. I still worried however that she'd try to involve childrens services.

 

It was an accident. you know the truth and that is all that matters. i hope you can find a job quickly and I am sorry you and your family are going through this. Stay informed of your rights. look it up and don't just go by what you are told. there should be a way to get this dropped all together or minimized. it was an accident and there are no prior indications of any sort of abuse. 

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mommy...
Nov. 27, 2010 at 11:51 PM

am so sorry this happen to you .  am so afraid of this happen to me or my husband because i saw this happen to a lady on oprah show and ever seen that show i will call my husband everyday to make sure he got baby out of the car.  They say this if happening to more people because of are busy live .  my prays are with u and remember this could have happen to anyone

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Sandy...
Nov. 28, 2010 at 12:23 AM

http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/article/2009/02/27/AR2009022701549_2.html?sid=ST2009030602446

Someone else posted this link, but I want to re-iterate how important it is to read this, in case you haven't had a chance yet.  It's long and it's very hard (sad) to read, but I think you can find some comfort in it...

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older
Dec. 1, 2010 at 6:58 PM

Oh hun, I am so sorry this happened but very happy that it had a good outcome, in this hurried lfe we live in this is something that should not but it happens.Maybe this was a close call call for you God's way of telling you to slow down and smell those roses......  We as moms are human and as such we do make mistakes with our best interest at heart, don't be to hard on yourself, it could happen to anyone, but I am glad you posted this to enlighten others. I am sure once you go to court and everything comes out in the open they will realize that you are a good mom, that had a bad, nothing more than that.  I will be praying for you to have the best outcome out of this ordeal and that your kids will not have to suffer over one mistake, hugs to you!

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