So, thought if there was anyone I could trust it would be my own family. But no, can't even trust my family. I had to stop posting on Facebook because my mother's family was using Facebook to keep an eye on what was going on in my own household. I couldn't put up that my kids had the sniffles without getting the third degree about it. So there's nothing personal on my page, and if I write on someone else's page I delete the alert on my page so that no one can see that I'm still active, and to protect anyone else's privacy. If I want to talk to someone I send them a message or call them. I don't like to have to do it because I've recently found some really good friends that I had back in high school that I was keeping in touch with through Facebook, but now it's gotten to the point where my information isn't safe anymore.

I tried telling my baby sister about how posting her life on Facebook can make it difficult if not downright impossible for her to get visitation with her own children. Back story, my sister has always been the type of person to "chase dick" as the saying goes. She chose her drugs, alcohol, and men over her own children and abandoned them to the system so she can do her own thing. She is saying that she wants her boys back, but instead of doing the drug tests to prove she's clean and going to DA classes, AA classes, and parenting classes to prove that she's a fit mother to be around her kids. She also refuses to get a job to pay child support and getting her own place so that she has a home for her kids. She conned her husband into putting his name of her first born's birth certificate, then when he refused to let her give the kids up she called child protective services and told them to come and get the kids while he was at work, even threatened to hurt the boys if they didn't get them.

So I told her that if she was serious about getting them boys back then she would stop posting her life on Facebook and encourage her boyfriend to do the same. They get mad and start posting stuff on Facebook about my house, my kids, my life in general, knowing how much I treasure my privacy. I treid calling them several times to get them to stop and they hung up on me after cursing at me and yelling on the phone that I had no right telling them what to do. All I did was suggest that posting on Facebook about how you want to beat someone up can cause problems and that anyone can take that post and claim that they are threatening them (the person taking the post, not my sister and her current boyfriend).

Now my father has been dragged into this, and he's threatening to come to NC to beat my ass until I tell my sister that I was wrong. He even said that he wouldn't help us out for anything, again.

Family sucks.sad

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Nov. 28, 2010 at 9:19 PM

Hey I understand the feeling. But sometimes with drug addicted siblings, the best thing to do is to let them go. They wont learn until they are ready to. As for the family, my advice is ignore people. You sound mature enough and maybe breakaway from the family for a while. Give you all some space. It seems to work when my mom gets butt hurt over everything in my life.


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Nov. 28, 2010 at 10:23 PM

I dumped fb last year in December and it was for the best.  I thought I had to keep it to stay in touch with people but I was wrong.  There are other ways. It sounds like your father and sibblings are a pain. Space is a good idea for this situation. Good luck!

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Nov. 29, 2010 at 4:56 PM

I don't even post on Facebook anymore, the only thing I do is play the games. My husband's ex-wife is on there as well as my steps and I'm on there so that we can communicate with her and them when they aren't home (she lets them get online whenever she takes them with her to her work, othertimes she is on and she chats with us about how the kids are doing in school and what they need to be encouraged to work on while they are with us)

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