ok so tell me if im wrong...as parents we know our entire life revolves around our kids, well i think adults bedroom should b off limits to them, thats where spouces get to have their relationship and be intimate with eachother and kids shouldnt be allowed...agree or disagree??  Keep in mind that my kids have a bedroom and they also have the 3rd bedroom as their toy room.  They are allowed all over the house except my room (well my bf doesn't agree).  Please also keep in mind that I've been a single mom for 4 years and this is the first time I've never had a room that I haven't had to share with my son.  I love my kids and they are my entire life..but we deserve to have one little place to share our intimate time.  I should be allowed to walk around in my room naked or just jump on top of my man and not have a fear that the kids are going to come in. Not to mention, if me and my bf had been intimate that morning, i get in the shower and get out and they're laying in our bed, (we're all adults) and that's just nasty! I dont want my kids laying in that stuff lol. (fyi there are no locks on any of the rooms in my house, and even if there were, i shouldn't have to lock the doors to keep them out----respect should be enough to keep them out.) 

Add A Comment


Nov. 29, 2010 at 10:00 PM

Nope,I don't see anything wrong with that!


Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 9:52 AM

Our boys can come in our room anytime during the day, but night is off limits. They know this. They go in there during the day to wake hubby up (in the mornings on the weekends) and to use our bathroom if some one is in their's. At night, they know that they are to stop at the door way and call us if they need something. It has nothing to do with us being intimate and not wanting them in our room/bed. It's the fact that hubby sleeps naked and sometimes I only have a tshirt and panties on. Dont' want them seeing that (we have all boys ages 9 yrs, 6 yrs and 12 months).

When hubby and I are intimite (after the boys are all in bed) we just go to our room and lock the door. Then when we done we unlock and open it for the night.

Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 10:48 AM

growing up we werent allowed in my parents room and now i see why. Its a place to be kid free have UNsafe kid stuff and for god sakes we cant even go to the bathroom alone so YES mom and dads room should be WAAAYY OFF limits!! lol

Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 11:27 AM

your house, your life, your rules.  All 3 of our kids are often in our room, piled in various spots and chilling out.  We all pile on the bed and watch movies often and our 3 yr old sleeps in our bed.  But, if the door is closed all 3 know to knock before barging, but sometimes the 3 yr old gets excited about something and barges in, so if we really want them out we lock it.

Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 11:53 AM

Well, let me tell you the down side of that.  I had a middle aged friend with elderly parents.  All her life she was not permitted in her parents room.   Well when her parents were bedridden it was a problem.  And when they needed help with their finances and the filing cabinet was located in the bedroom, it was a problem.  So I believe a policy of "If the door is closed don't even knock unless the house is on fire," is much better.  They won't be little forever.

Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 12:38 PM

I think that is fine, but we don't have that rule.  If the door is closed, he knows he must knock first, but if we were doing anything, the door would be locked anyway. 

Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 1:15 PM

I think it is whatever works best for that family.  We co sleep so we don't have a private room.

Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 1:37 PM

I don't really agree.  What if they need your help and youre in your room but they CANT go in?  Why is the bedroom the only place to be intimate? 

I very often snuggle with my kids in my bed, I still bedshare with my 2 yr old and will with my newborn as well.  

As a parent I need to be accessible to my kids at all times.  Locking myself behind a door where they "cant" come in is just not acceptable.  

What exactly is the "punishment" for your kids for coming in.  

From your post I read this is all sexually motivated because you want to have sex and be naked.  

Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 3:07 PM

To each their own.  For our house, it is a knock first policy.  No one enters anyone else's bedroom without knocking first.  I think that is just good manners.  Our son is allowed in our bedroom, but you better believe if he comes in without knocking, he has to go out, close the door, knock and wait for us to tell him to come in before he can say what he was going too, lol.


Message Friend Invite

Nov. 30, 2010 at 3:12 PM

That so wouldn't work out in this house but there is no reason why you shouldn't do it at yours.

Message Friend Invite

Want to leave a comment and join the discussion?

Sign up for CafeMom!

Already a member? Click here to log in