any suggestion on gettn ur child out of ur bed he is 4, & i always end up on sofa! this is a different situation than most, he is our grandchild&we took custody of him 2yrs ago. He came out of a bad situation & wouldnt leave my side but now its 2yrs later & he is fine,has grown & is to big 2 be in our bed! i think now its a habit, but this habit is kickn me to the sofa any suggestions PLEASE i want my bed back w/my hubby! hopeless

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Nov. 30, 2010 at 9:21 AM

is he on a toddler bed or twin bed in his room. with my son when i was pregnant with our second he would always come in our bed. so we ended up putting his twin bed on the side of our bed. so my hubby and i would sleep on our bed and because ds was sleeping next to mommy in his own bed he was ok being in his bed. then we started slowly letting him take naps in his bed in his room. when dd was born she slept in our room for a month. and so did he. then when i moved her in the kids room big brother did too. do u have a pet maybe the pet sleeping in his room would help.

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Nov. 30, 2010 at 9:52 AM

Our baby is 5 and she still will come get in our bed. It drives me crazy and she will kick me out the bed. I have tried everything,I have tried sleeping with her till she goes to sleep in her own bed, but she always ends up in our bed. I wish I could give you some advice but I need some to. Good Luck...

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Nov. 30, 2010 at 9:59 AM

I co-sleep, so I wouldn't kick my child out of my bed, but have you tried pushing a twin bed up to your bed? Or making a bed for him on the floor out of blankets and pillows? If he came out of a bad situation, he may still need to be near you, even if it has been 2 years.  If you are the only thing he's got, he may feel abandoned if you push him out. Instead, make a little space in your room for him. 

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Nov. 30, 2010 at 10:56 AM

There is no easy way.  The only thing to do is to put him back in his bed and tell him he has to stay there.  He has formed a habit and habits are hard to break, so when you start, determine to be firm.  Every time he shows up in your bed, take him back to his.  You might even consider a gate so that he can't get out of his room.  Since he's already 4, it will likely have to be fixed so he can't get it open, but I would do it.  

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