Need advice

[Mommy2Masa1213]

 For the past 2 months Ive been seeing this great guy name Steve.. Ive only known him for 4 months ( but the 2 months that we known each other we only texted n talked on the phone - nothing further.. ) Until when Dan left thats when we decided that we should meet n see where it went.. So in the 2 months we went out to dinner, the movies..We do everything together. My children even met him and love him to death.. The other nite I accidently said I love u and he looked at me n told me that he loves me too BUT no sure if hes in love with me.. The question that I asked is that I never had someone say that to me. I no I faked being in love with sumone but Im not sure what to think anymore.. When my children see their dad Im over his house for the weekend and he's over my house 5 days a week. So no matter what we're always together. So im not sure if I should stop telling him that I love him or what??? So moms please give me advice..  I really dont wanna lose him.. We got lots of stuff in common..

[kkbird]

Dec. 9, 2010 at 9:36 PM

I would deffinately STOP SAYING I LOVE YOU TO HIM!!!!!  That kind of puts the halt in the groove.  Take it easy and slow... breath alittle before you get into complications again.  just go with the flow  and enjoy some romance......  good luck to ya....

[Suzie2mom]

Dec. 10, 2010 at 7:41 AM

I would be honest with Steve about your thoughts on the subject, why rush something when letting it grow is so much more pleasurable. I have no doubt love can grow quickly and have had the same experience myself. My husband was the first to say the words to me and I had to be brutally honest with him but he respected me for that and all these years later we are blessed daily by our growing love.

[Collegevillemom]

Dec. 10, 2010 at 10:47 PM

Personally, and I mean no disrespect, but why are you allowing this guy so much in your life when you haven't known him very long and you have your two kids to think about? I think you need to be more cautious about letting men into your life because point and case- you are feeling something and he is still on the fence. And now, he is becoming part of not only your life, but your children's lives as well. I understand how you feel and about falling in love and that it can happen very quickly. I sympathize with you being in this situation questioning your feelings, what you have now said to him and then wondering why he is not sure how he feels after everything. It is this exact feeling you are feeling that makes me feel for your kids bc here is this mannow in their lives and taking away from that precious time because he is in your life. They already have feelings of uncertainty now that dan is not their dad ( for messa)or the man in your life. Now, not that long after, here is this guy taking your time and attention and sharing your home. Is he going to be there for you, for them?If not or if he isn't even sure, then they should not have to go through this relationship as it  or steve is trying to feel himself/ itself out. When I was a kid, my father left. One thing I love and respect about my mother for is that we were always number one. She never really went out and she certainly never brought strange men into our lives. You are young and certainly deserve love and a relationship that will bring not only you the most happiness but also the kind of stability, love and example of love and relationships that you want for your children. They will live what they learn from you and from whatever people/relationships/men that you expose them to or allow into their lives. So, I am not sure what you should be thinking about this guy or where this relationship is going. I only think about thse two beautiful babies you have that are certainly not going to understand all of this and for this reason alone I think you need to give more time to figure these things out before bringing these people into your home or your children's lives. They deserve better or at least more caution on your part before you introduce them or allow Steve into your life. These are all the regular reason, but of course there all the other more serious things to think about such as abusers, pedofiles, drug addicts, etc. Your kids need your best and most cautious thinking and actions.