Its been a while since i ranted about therapy... :P

[Annette7931]

Well its not the same therapy from before.  The sad truth is it got too real and i bailed.  All it did was uncover all these truths and basically the therapist did nothing but pressure me to confront my dad... regardless of how many times i said i couldn't do it, and i wasn't ready to do it... and every session was him basically forcing me to do it... when I realized there is nothing i could do but confront him, i no longer see the point in going.  My dad is not the type of person you confront.  But therapist just didn't care :(  So thats why i quit seeing him.

Well now i'm back in "therapy" but its in the form of marriage counseling.  My hubby and i have been having problems lately that all go back to his lack of interest in me and anything family related.  We went through One Source and got approved for the 12 sessions.  So i desperately wanted to avoid the old therapist (seeing how i just stopped going without telling him) so we are now driving 20 minutes to see another lady.  At first i loved her... she's super friendly, super nice, and anti-depression meds.  Then i realized that she is against meds because of the alternatives... what she doesn't realize is how unrealistic her ideas are.  For example, I admitted i have been having lots of mood swings that make issues worse, her advice was daily 30 minute walks completely alone.  While that was all well and good in theory, my hubby works at least 15 hour days (in between 4a and 7a and out sometime after 9pm)... we have a 15 month old daughter and live near no friends... what am i supposed to do... leave her in her crib alone for 30 minutes???  So i tell her this and she says "if you really wanted it to happen, you would make it happen"... again... its not that i don't want to make it happen... its WHEN COULD I DO THIS!!!!!  So she tells me to go after my hubby gets out of work... i tell my hubby and he says HELL NO!... walking in our neighberhood alone past sundown is asking for trouble and i couldn't agree more.  I keep trying to tell her this and she acts as if i'm just making excuses.  So that right there pisses me off more than anything.  She acts really condescending towards me in general... like the fact that i have a degree but "sit at home" with my daughter all day... and she acts as if i'm whiney because my hubby is never home and would rather spend time alone... THATS WHY WE WENT TO HER!!!  To help us sort through his pulling away from me... obviously it is a big deal!  I feel like she is totally calling me a loser for feeling the way i do... or worse... like its my fault or something.  I dunno, I'm gonna give it a few more tries before i quit on her... maybe she is going somewhere with her theories??? We've only done 4 sessions and i know it will take time... what she has done is remind my hubby he married me because he loves me, and that has made things better.  He listens to me a little more and works towards spending time with me... he's now talking about selling his xbox (which i'm not sure if i'm for or against) so he is not distracted by it. He's making a real effort again and i hope he can stick to it. So yeah, this therapist is helping BUT I'm soooooooooo tired of her putting me down :(

[momofkids]

Dec. 10, 2010 at 9:47 PM

Hmmm, maybe this therapist just isn't a good match for you.  Remember that therapists are only human and sometimes their advice/counseling is affected by their own shortcomings or life experiences.

[Krystal.Ingalls]

Dec. 10, 2010 at 9:51 PM

I'm sorry she's giving you such grief over why you can't go walking.  Maybe you can take her advice and do something else with it.  Maybe 30 minutes of alone time when the baby is sleeping to do what you want could help.  Take a bath or paint your toenails or whatever you like to do.  That's all I can think of.  I'm glad your relationship is getting better!  Hang in there...there's a light at the end of the tunnel!  =)