The kids are out for school until January 3rd and I don't think I'm going to make it.... The first day of being home all day was Tuesday and its only Thursday and I'm going crazy, my house is a wreck, nobody wants to listen and I feel so crappy cause I keep yelling.  My daughters are 10 and 7 and they have decided to not do a damn thing, they want to bitch when I say clean your room and heaven forbid I ask one of them to help me put the dishes away.  Getting them to get they're dirty clothes to the laundry is an all day thing and they decided together that they're little brother is no longer allowed in their bedrooms and have barred him from trying to do anything with them.  He of course doesn't understand this since hes 4 and special needs, when they run from him he thinks its a game and when they yell at him he thinks its funny.  And naturally when they yell at him, I yell at them and so on and so forth.  I'm so sick and tired of being sick and tired of my own kids, whats wrong with me?  I love them, but geez I really can't stand them when they're like this.  What happened to the sweet little girls that wanted me too braid hair or paint toenails, they have been taken over by the pre-teen years and they are Evil!!!  My son is a different story, hes considered special needs and hes wide open all the time... Ifeel like I need medication so I can keep up with him, hes 10 times more "hyper" than my niece with ADHD.   I'm so stressed out, I don't go many places with all 3 because I can't handle it, always into things or the questions, can I get this?? why can't I get that??  Its not fun anymore.  I never thought the day would come when I felt like a complete and udder failure but that day is today.  Right now writing this I have banned them all from the den, (I'll clean up their destruction later) and I'm sitting on my couch feeling like shit and hoping my husband will be home soon since they always listen to him.  I have completely failed them as a mom and as a parent in general,  I give and I give but now they seem to want soo much and I just don't think I have it in me...

 

Please do not bash me, this is a journal and I know its open to the public but damn, please don't tell me that I'm a pathic loser, I can't take that today

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RaeTy
Dec. 23, 2010 at 1:19 PM

*hugs* everyone feels like that at one time or another. i have 2 kids, my dd has ADHD and my ds has autism. and there are days and even more then one day. that i feel like i want to pull my hair out, and i wish school would start back up just so i don't have to be the drill Sargent. i get mad, and lose my temper then send the rest of the day feeling like sh$t cause i did it.  maybe when dh gets home you could sneak off for an hour or two just to get your barrings back? even a drive where you don't have to hear the word mom for awhile

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sgr123
Dec. 23, 2010 at 1:32 PM

You're not a pathetic loser.  Sounds like the kids are just being pains, normal pains, but pains just the same.  I can't give you much advice for your 4 year old as I don't have a child with ADHD, but the girls maybe I can help with.

Grab you a timer and give them a reasonable amount of time to clean their rooms.  Whatever is left on the floor when the timer is done you put in a garbage bag, dirty clothes and all, and they don't get any of it back until they earn it back.  The smarting off would land them in the corner.  If they are still being difficult, give them other cleaning tasks to do.  You say the house is a mess?  I'd be willing to bet it isn't yours, right?  They need to clean it up.  Set your son up in the kitchen with some playdo or coloring pages to keep him busy while this is going on.  See if it helps.  At the very least it keeps them busy.

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tinadf7
Dec. 23, 2010 at 1:36 PM

Oh girl I feel you! I have 5 ages 3-13 and I'm wishing school was still in session by today! They knit pick, stomp, roll their eyes, throw attitude left and right and generally enjoy making life hell I've decided......lol You are NOT a bad mom! Our kids are balls of hormones right now. I just read online last week between the age of 11-15 they have no concept of body language theirs or other peoples. They take the littlest things out of context and the stuff they should notice doesn't register. Something about hormones and brain synapsis - whatever the reason it's aggrivating and exhausting that's for sure!

You can't use Santa as a threat anymore. They don't want to be helpers. They're too cool for crafts. I'm ready to give the 11 & 13 year olds my cell phone, $20 each and drop them off at the mall............lol Not that I will but boy oh boy it's crossed my mind lots this week.

Hugs - somehow we will all survive and if you figure out how - fill me in! lol

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Veron...
Dec. 23, 2010 at 1:39 PM

I won't bash, mama.   I too,  AM THERE!!!

I have a girl with Down Syndrome whom I homeschool.  She is 17....Most of this week I have been getting a break...but today...just as you put your in journal up....my angel who has been making such developmental gains and behaving like the perfect little lady, seemingly too.  a giant step BACKWARDS and had the most horrid meltdown that I have seen in quite a while...which kinda makes me feel what you are describing....:(      I thought I had it made!!!!! NOT AGAIN!!!!!!  Nooooooo........

For her, however....after the discipline came and she saw I wasn't going to give in....I took action....She is having female issues and the weather is changing  for the worse....So...I gave her an ibuprophen.(only the 2nd time in her life I have given her one...She is not on meds for issues...)...and now she is resting like a kitty...  I might get some work done....

I'll be thinking of you...I hope you find the peace you are seeking....

((Hugs)) to you.....Veronica

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