ok so im a sahm and i love my kids but latley because of the snow we havent been outside. well not the 12th but the 5th we were at my inlaws and my son(3) had a meltdown. oh man. so we had this thing planned for jan 15th to celebrate my bday, sis in law and mils bdays. well ds has been horrible and so all this week i told him if u dont behave then u are not going. so i was fully prepared to stay home too. well this morning it contintes the behaveior. so i tell him go to ur room and sit down and dont move we arent going to the get together. then hubby says well im not taking arianna and going either. aggggggggggggggg i tell him hello its ur mom and sisters bday u have to go. no im stay. so because he wont go without me and im not getting a sitter who isnt going to inforce any of my rules ds is off punishment. i hate that dh underminds my rules

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Jan. 15, 2011 at 12:24 PM

Of course you have tried other forms of punishment.  But Does hubby ALWAYS undermine you or is it when there is a special occasion that he feels is important for the family to do together?

take care

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Jan. 15, 2011 at 12:53 PM

If you know that the kids can't get outside, take them to a mall or somewhere like McDonald's playland....   Be positive with them.  Seems to me the children just need direction and aren't getting any positive direction from you.  I feel sorry for their teachers....

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Jan. 15, 2011 at 3:29 PM

It appears that several people are being punished for what the 3 year old did.  Maybe, timeout at the time your son had a meltdown could have been an alternative...  When kids are that young their attention spans aren't long so if they receive a consequence right away it'll stick better.  Again, every child is different so if not timeout maybe something else but closer to when the incident occurred.  Your hubby should help you come up with the consequences so that he is more apt to follow through with it and if not at least help you with being consistent.  It sounds like you have all of the right intentions and your son is lucky to have you to guide him. :)

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