Be your own best friend

[shtteredprnces]

 

 *Learn to be your own best friend so you don't fall into the trap of becoming your own worst enemy*

My mind is rolling over this today.  Being my own best friend.  Why?  Because maybe if I loved myself the way I love my friends, I would think about myself the way I do them.  I wouldn't be so quick to judge my actions, so quick to take the blame, so easily able to see the wrong in the things I do.  I might actually give myself the same benefit of the doubt I allow others in my life. 

Maybe if I was my own best friend, when I saw me in the mirror, I could see the beauty of a person within instead of the flaws in the person without.

If I was my own best friend, I could respect my own opinions.  I could value the emotions that I carry rather than be sure that they must be baseless because they are mine.

I might give myself a second chance.  I might forgive my own mistakes.  I may not give up on my own challenges.  I might take care of my health as well as my heart.  I might actually be my own cheerleader. 

Maybe if I was my own best friend, I would love myself with the same fierce devotion I do others.  Maybe I would never back down in the face of a personal injustice, because I would never back down if it was my other best friends being hurt.  Maybe I'd see something more than the wrong, maybe I'd actually search for the right.  Maybe if I was my own best friend, I'd never doubt there was someone in my corner, I'd never worry about being alone, I wouldn't fear what happens when people see behind the smiles to the real person.  Maybe.  Maybe, if I was my own best friend.

What about you?  What would change for you if you were your own best friend?

[Lb128f]

Jan. 21, 2011 at 11:52 AM

Very good...so true!

[twinluv]

Jan. 21, 2011 at 3:20 PM

Well said.. Thanks for posting.

[karischub]

Jan. 21, 2011 at 3:40 PM

I think we all reach this place at some point. I'm still working on it...

[JackieGirl007]

Jan. 21, 2011 at 8:10 PM

You're totally right! For me, I would see my beauty instead of my ugliness! That would be nice! I would see I have extra weight on me but that doesn't mean I'm worthless! I would stop hating myself and see that I'm not actually that bad!

[georgia362]

Jan. 21, 2011 at 10:40 PM

I WOULD TRY TO HAVE MORE SELF ESTEEM AND BELIEVE IN MYSELF MORE.

[Liz4Life]

Jan. 22, 2011 at 3:28 PM

i have to be my own best friend because i dont trust anyone but myself. 

[Watjar]

Jan. 22, 2011 at 5:22 PM

When I got divorced, I had to depend on my own best friend.. Now, I am content with my life the way it is. 

[rivercharm]

Jan. 22, 2011 at 6:44 PM

This is so true and this is how I have been trying to live recently, so it was ironic I ran across this. GREAT POST!!!!

[saltycoqui]

Jan. 22, 2011 at 7:34 PM

There was a point my life where I realized I had to become my own best friend or I would have spiraled down a path with no chance of return. And you know what? It's working!

[shtteredprnces]

Jan. 22, 2011 at 7:41 PM

Ladies, thank you so much for all the positive comments!  I am so glad this resignated with so many of you.  It's tough, trying to be your own best friend lol.  It's wonderful to see that so many of you have already taken that step and that it really is working for you!

(Original Poster)