Pregnant again at 21...

[KylersMom8-16-7]

I am in my 7th week of my 3rd unplanned pregnancy. I have a 2 and 3 year old to care for. I have a house I can't seem to keep clean. A wonderful boyfriend that works his ass off for our family. I can barely care for myself and now I am trying to care for this tiny baby that's growing inside me. How do I tell my family I am pregnant with yet another unplanned baby?

I can't go to college in the Fall because the baby is coming in September. I had plans to be a ultrasound tech but I don't qualify for the program because I have isolated myself from the world for over 3 years(and I need 3 recommendation letters.) I hate leaving my house. I hate being around people. I hate that I am the way I am!

How the hell are we going to pay for another baby? We live barely  off what my boyfriend makes. We are short on our bills a lot and now we will have a family of 5. Our car is too small for another car seat but we will have to cram one in somehow.

I have no idea how we will pay for clothes, blankets, more diapers for a 3rd baby. I just wish I could wave a magic wand and have everything be okay... I just want my baby to have a chance... my whole family to have a chance... but we are sinking with no help in sight.

[-KBomb]

Jan. 27, 2011 at 4:14 AM

I'm not trying to be rude... at all.... I just have a question.

Are you not using any protection? Condom, birth control, anything?

[oldermomof5]

Jan. 27, 2011 at 6:06 AM

My heart goes out to you. Do you have a crisis pregancy center near you were you can get the help you need?  Such as this? http://www.womenscarecenter.org/index.html look for one. They will gladly help.

[Lb128f]

Jan. 27, 2011 at 8:38 AM

Good Luck! I'm sure it will all work out. I'm so curious too about this....

-KBomb Jan. 27, 2011 at 4:14 AM

I'm not trying to be rude... at all.... I just have a question. Are you not using any protection? Condom, birth control, anything?

[KylersMom8-16-7]

Jan. 27, 2011 at 12:39 PM

Honestly we weren't as careful as we should of been, my boyfriend is getting a vasectomy and we will make sure he has no sperm before we stop using backup BC.

(Original Poster)

[-KBomb]

Jan. 27, 2011 at 6:04 PM

Well Good Luck with eveything!

[Kellyjude1]

Jan. 27, 2011 at 6:54 PM

 My heart goes out to you.  Children are a blessing.  I am sending prayers your way so that things will get better.

[tinadf7]

Jan. 28, 2011 at 10:40 AM

I'm sorry but this is incredibly rude! I have 5 kids and all were unplanned - not because I didn't use bc but because 5 different ones failed. It doesn't matter if she was or wasn't using anything she's venting and scared - I've been there!

Jan. 27, 2011 at 2:14 AM

I'm not trying to be rude... at all.... I just have a question.

Are you not using any protection? Condom, birth control, anything?

 

 

 

OP - It really does get better - I promise! I have 5 surprises and even though there were days I never thought I'd get ahead, eventually it happens. Can your doc write one of your recommendations? Is there an old teacher from high school you really looked up to for another? Your highschool guidance counselor for the 3rd? You might have to put off enrolling for a semester but really it's only a few more months....   ;)

[AmirnLexcimom]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 11:06 PM

it will be okay i am 22 with a 2 yr old, an 9 month old and due in may with baby #3. i enjoy my kids very much.

[Mrs.Luff]

Feb. 16, 2011 at 1:28 AM

I do realize it may seem like the days are dark right now, but everything will work out.  As long as you love you children, then you will find a way to provide for them. I had my first daughter just after I turned 19 and my second I was 20.  I have had to put off college as well, but I know I will get to it. 

But on a side note, please feel blessed to have this little child. Because their are many families out there that try so hard and are unable to conceieve :)

[ashleywilkerson]

Apr. 2, 2011 at 6:08 PM

im in the same boat as you, you can do it tho just take it one thing at a time.