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YOUR lack of follow through makes ME look like the nut!!!!
- Jan 28, 2011 at 6:05 PM
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I picked up my son today -as I do everyday, from school and received a note from his teacher. I assumed it was something saying we owed the cafeteria for a milk -- But no, it was from the clinic. It said my son fell today ON THE CONCRETE and that I should be looking for headaches, dizziness, vomiting and so on.
OK.... um, why am I hearing about this almost 4 hours after the fact?! -which is what I said to his teacher. He instructed me to ask the office about this since he wasn't even there when it happened, there was a sub then. I went to the office and of course I get some "lets all calm down" lady giving me a very condescending tone and speaking to me as if I were a moron. I didn't yell but I did have my voice raised when I asked "Why on Earth wouldn't you contact me for something like this?!?" -- "Well it didn't appear to be serious..." she starts to say when I interrupted with, "He doesn't have to be bleeding or need stitches for a phone call to his mother!! He hit is head on the sidewalk!!"
So here's my issue; TO ME it does not matter if the incident was "serious" or not, he is my son and I should of been notified any damn way- NO MATTER WHAT. He sat in the clinic with ice on his head for some time, why couldn't someone call then and calmly tell me what happened?!? They know me there- I've been in the office 25 times since school started for some reason or another, why couldn't they call just to give me a heads up?! Thankfully my son is doing OK -- he's sitting here watching a program.
Before I left the office and while I was still being chided by some woman there- who I might add never identified herself --- I filled out paper work saying I want to be called in the future. It makes me very angry and very upset that this wasn't in effect before.... which leaves me wondering what was all that paperwork I filled out for my son when the school year started?!?!?!
Am I wrong here?!
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EXACTLY- thank you! :) I totally agree- if he was in the clinic and I needed a note that warned me of 'side effects' from his injuries then I should of been called to let me know it even happened!
Jen, I agree with you, they should have contacted you as soon as it happened - preferably while he was in the office being looked after. He WAS in the office being tended to wasn't he? I would be doubly upset if he wasn't. I am a retired teacher and now a substitue teacher, I would have sent the child to the office to be observed and for the parent to be contacted. Hitting ones head on a hard surface doesn't always end benignly. Closed head injuries are insiduous and dangerous, call your child's pediatrician and ask if X-rays are necessary. Hope he is feeling better soon! God's blessings to you and your family.
those were my thoughts too- I'm keeping a close eye on him... he might be getting annoyed with me - he's right here next to me watching TV with his brother. -But that's what I thought, you never know with head injuries and it makes me nervous.... I just really wish they were more on top of things and contacted me the moment it happened. I can't help but feeling that the school dropped the ball today and for me, they've got to earn my trust back.
thank you both for commenting and for votes too-- the support really helps! ♥
That would not have set well with me either. When our girls were coming along through school we dealt with several incidents similar to this ourselves. Once when our daughter was injured and the other when she was upset over something that happened. The school refused to allow her to call home. You want to know what I did - I arranged a meeting with the area superintendents office and requested the principal be in attendance. By the end of that meeting I was given an apology and the principal was given a stern reminder of the guidelines. I'm sorry that happened and I do feel you should have been notified and least of all, you should not have been spoken to in that manner. The next time, take it higher up.
Oh no they didn't! I would be just as upset. This is uncalled for. If a child is injured, it is their responsibility to contact the parent ASAP.
A hit to the head isn't something to take lightly (and obviously they realized this or they wouldn't have mentioned the symptoms to look for in the "note" they gave you--grr). How dare them give you only a note and I'd be just as furious as you are, to find this out the way you did. Shame on them!
I really hope your kiddo is doing okay and I agree that he should have his little head looked at - just to be on the safe side.
Give him a big hug from his mommy's cafemom friend. Hugs dear, vent away!
i would have flipped out not kidding, this happened to my son tyler in daycare, he was bit so bad by another child there that it left a scar. and then when i take him home from the daycare no one says a thing about him getting bit and i find it at his nightly bath a big huge bite!!!! that scared it was so bad.
I totally agree with you Jen. School should have called you without hesitation. Even if they didn't feel it was serious (and I would think hitting your head on the concrete is serious), it warranted a call to you. About a month ago, Brandon had a really bad day at school. He told me that same night, the he was upset and cried for about 1/2 half the day. I was heartbroken when he told me that. I was so upset that Keith wasn't called (he is the 1st contact for school, since he's easier to reach than me at work). The teacher never even called to tell me, I had to email her about it. She said she tried to comfort him, but if he continued to cry (which is unusual for him), I think we should have been called. It's hard, we can't be there with our kids 24/7, and we have to trust the adults that are with them when we can't be. I hope Kalel is doing ok!
I'm sorry about your son's accident and glad it wasn't any worse. I've found in our school district the most productive but politically incorrect way to get what you want - in this case a call from the school if your child is hurt and needs to be sent to the office for it - is to go over everyone's head straight to the superintendent. Always ticks the teacher, principal, whoever else off, but so what, if you get you and your son's needs met.
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Oh NO that is NOT RIGHT at all Jen!! NO WAY would be ok with that either. You have every right to be ticked off. It should already be a given that if your child is hurt, they call you.
My DS fell on the playground last year, he was hurt pretty bad. They called me immediately, although they get trying to downplay his injury. I was just glad they called me. He wound up breaking his elbow:(
Anyway, my point is...YOUR child was hurt, and apparantly bad enough that they needed to warn you of any side effects of it. They should have called you!!!
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