It's time to start over....a new me =)

[NatesMommy118]

 For the past few months I just been a depressed mess. Just not happy with anything in my life. I've been confused about love (long story maybe I'll get into that another time), starting to hate my job, been so stressed all I do is eat (which we all know leads to another problem of gaining weight!), and just pretty much hating life in general. I want to enjoy life, i want to be happy. Maybe I have to force myself to get out there and do something rather then just sitting on my ass at home doing nothing when I'm not at work. I remember my calender used to be jam packed of fun things for my son and I do now the calender is empty and we never do anything. I just wanna be happy and love my life...maybe i have to fake it for a while before that realy starts to happen? The doctor put me on Seriquil XR (spelling?) Hopefully that will work. I've only been on it two days so far so I can't really tell a difference yet.

What do you do when you're stressed and feeling down? How to do get through the tough times rather then give in and feel sorry for yourself? How do you stay so strong?

[ironkitten]

Jan. 30, 2011 at 1:11 PM

Try exercising, taking a walk, yoga, meditation, or read a good book.  Clean the house or just a closet.  Depression is a vicious cycle, but once we hop off the spinning wheel and accomplish something, we start to feel good about ourselves.  Need my phone number? 

[NatesMommy118]

Jan. 30, 2011 at 1:28 PM

Thanks for the ideas. I'll try to do that. I would love to take a yoga class (or any exercise class for that matter) but it's hard to figure out the time to do it with work and being a single Mom and all.  Plus trying to find the money to do it as well! Maybe I'll look around for some good books to buy....that would be nice to get caught up in a good book. =)

(Original Poster)

[cadeesmommy0120]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 11:34 AM

I know the feeling hun!  Actually at the moment I'm in a funk and I don't know how to pull myself out of it.  Luckily mine only last a couple days.  Til then, wine will have to do.  :)

[NewM0mmy1]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 12:45 PM

I feel like I have been on the same page as you for months. I have been going through a lot also. Being a single mom is tough enough I am sure, but dealing with all of the day to day drama that comes with just being alive can be trying. Love is a whole other brutal thing on it's own. I think as women we give men to much control i nour lives. Speaking for myself I feel like i have depended on my boyfriend for my own happiness and that is just wrong anyway you look at it. I have been feeling down, depressed, lonely, unattractive, and sorry for myself. Just this weekend I went to the store and went to the hobby section and decided to teach myself how to crochet. It may not be your thing but I started a blanket for the baby yesterday and I actually felt really good. I also took myself to church. I am not a very religious person but I would like to have belief in my life. I had a good time and felt great when I left. I know I still have a lot of work to do to feel complete as "ME" again and be fufilled in my life, but it is a start. My advice to you is try to just as you said....Stop sitting around and doing nothing. That can make you feel so much worse. If money is an issue take your son to the park, have a picnic, play some board games, find little hobbies that you can do to occupy some of your time. Most importantly try to remain positive and motivated in your life. "If you always do the same thing, You will always get the same result" make some positive changes and take it day by day. I am not therapist or doctor but I am writing you from the heart. I am still working on this myself so I hope that this helps you in even the smallest way. Good luck to you!