just thoughts

[ilovedogs1967]

I know that I have to forgive Barb and be a  willing participant in the family events, but I dont want to, and my fantasy is that I don't have too, but my worst fear is that I dont' go to holidays and instead of the holidays being the insular enjoyable time that I think they will be, they are instead, boring and no one has fun. and the kids and andy resent me because we aren't going to his folks...sigh...its hard to know what to do.

they say that you can forgive someone and still hold them accountable for their actions. well, how do you do that with a mother in law??!!!???

oh well...I will think on it between now and easter...maybe if we don't show up for one holiday, or even if I don't show up for one or two holidays, it will make things somewhat easier on me when I do go..enuff time will have passed to make it bearable. I think that I will now write a funny story and cheer myself up.

[brandoneaglemom]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 12:23 AM

i have done this......unfortunately, it was my sil. me and mil get along fairly well. what i did was wrong...i just went on xmas eve to basically avoid sil and her fmaily..lol....but, ya know...i was wrong. i allowed her to get to me. i was weak...me!!! and now her kids are grown and i allowed this woman bring me down.......she gives off this persona that shes better. shes never said anything to me...it just shows when she is around...but i took it personal and i should not have......look at it this way....its just one day....just one day. go a few hrs and make do.....make it quick and then the rest of the day is yours......in the end, youll be the better person....good luck. what doesnt kill is makes us stronger..hahahahaha