In law dilemma and new baby ......

[MamaSteed]

I was just informed Saturday that my mother in law plans to be here from Feb 11 to the 17.  Worst case scenario I am having csection on the 15th.  I am horrified.  I can't stand her and her fake see through smile.  She is annoying and a mooch.  I have so much that I am doing and have to get ready. 

My other issue is the day my baby is born, I want no visitors until my kids can visit and so I can settle after my section.  Am I being selfish.  I have waitied the longest and gone through the most. I am emotional already thinking about it and knowing this is our last baby I want it to be my experience.  MINE.  Like I said I can't stand her, and the thought that she will be there and act like its her glory, sickens me. 

She is never here for any of us let alone her own children and makes no effort.  She is a flake and un reliable.  I want what I want and I better get it or my hubby will be in trouble!!!  She never recognizes any of us or our bdays, pretty sure she could care less if we breathe! (ok maybe, but she left her own children at a very young age with grandparents, and hasn't looked back since - my hubby is 29!) got my drift........

I might bend and let people come up in the afternoon, but I want to bask in my babies presence. 

What do you think, am I wrong?  My hubby and I haven't even talked about it, becasue he knows it is very sensitive subject matter..........ahhhhhh-I have enough on my plate..........why do I need this shit too!

[mrssundin]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 11:06 AM

talk to your hubby, let him know what you want and he should follow through on it.  and no your not selfish.  having your baby your way is what you deserve.

[tinadf7]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 11:44 AM

Tell her that won't work for you and the first week in March would be better and give her the # to a local hotel for reservations....... You can ALWAYS tell your nurses you don't want visitors too.  ;)  That way they get to be the bad guys and not you.

[cchupko]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 1:21 PM

He needs to tell her that time will NOT work and she'll have to wait until a later date.  This is your last birthing experience you can't let anything spoil it...Stand up to her if he won't and say no, to come the week after...

TRUST ME, I was in the same boat!!! I know its not easy when someone pretends to be all into family when really they are not it stinks!!!

Again, don't let anything spoil this for you!!!  Good luck mama, keep us posted:)

[bczjk76]

Jan. 31, 2011 at 3:21 PM

 Have your hubby tell her she needs to come at a different time. That her coming during that time is not a good time at all! I know what you mean I hate when a person acts a certain way when they are not that way at all. Basically being two faced. I have that in my family. It your time Celeste,don't let anything spoil it!! Take care