My daughters bio family has not been there whatsoever. Sierra just turned 8 last Thursday. Her bio dad has been locked up since 2005 now. Bunch of selfish reasons if you ask me. When he went in jail. Me and him were no longer together. I was already dating my now husband. He saw Sierra a few times. But those last few times really made me regret having her go over there. He risked it and I didnt wanna risk losing her. But I still allowed her to see him. 2005 was the last time she had seen him and his family. But honestly even before that, they never did anything for her. They never helped me out with what she needed, no Christmas gifts, no birthday gifts. I remember that year for her birthday. They had asked me to bring her over because they had some surprises for her. I was in the town they lived in, so im like ok just for a bit. When we got there. They ended up leaving, said they had to go someplace and they would be back in an hour. So we waited. And they never came back in that hour. And didn't have any surprises for her as well. Luckily I didn't tell her thats why we were going over there. Otherwise I would have dealt with that. After that night they never showed up, and they didn't even call asking why we didnt stay. It was really pointless after that. They didnt have the respect for my daughter, why give them that respect? So flashforward to now. Shes 8, she doesnt remember her bio dad. I don't hear from them. In fact, they know I live in Indiana, but they don't know where. They do know how to get a hold of me. Thru my email or thru FB. Which I have never heard from. A few years ago I got a call from his sister informing me that her bio dad had just told them he was negative with HIV... and she called me to inform me. Which didnt matter because I was clear of that. But then continued to go on about him and how sickly he was, I am not sure if it was for pity or not. Oh I do know why she called. Right before I hung up on her, she had asked me if she could take Sierra to the prison to see him. I said 'are you crazy? she hasnt seen him in 3 years and a prison is no place for a girl her age' and she hung up on me. Heard one more time from her asking for my address, which I did give her, she wanted to send Sierra some giftcards for her birthday. Again nothing.
So right now. I am at a point where I really want to email her bio grandmother. And really tell her how I feel. I have a very strong feeling, whenever her bio dad gets out. he is going to think everything is fine and dandy. when its not. We are hoping going to be in the process of terminating his rights and having my husband adopt her. Its so easy in Indiana to do so without his consent right now. But I really feel the need to email her and how saddened i am of this situation. Its been 6 years they have not said a single Happy Birthday or Merr Christmas to her. Or asking how see is. And I know for the fact she considers Sierra close to her. I've just been writing this email in my head. and im not sure if it will help to actually send it or not. Not sure if the reaction will be good or bad... im at a standstill.