I have a DD that will be three in June.  DH and I decided that I needed to get a job so that we could buy a house. So my SIL volunteered to babysit free of charge.  She will be 22 in July.  I have been noticing lately that when I come home it is very hot in my house, so I check the thermostat and realize that it was been turned up from 72 to 76.  The first time I thought it was my daughter, she has recently learned that by moving her little chair around the house she can reach things, usually light switches.  I come home again today and find it on 76 and I think WTF she can't always get it on 76 right?  So apparently my SIL has been taking it upon herself to adjust it cause she likes to run around in shorts and tank tops(even though I told her last week that I thought Lily may have been messing with it and to please make sure she leaves it alone, and she said ok I will like nothing was going on!). I come home today and ask SIL if she gave Lillian a bath and she says yes but she didn't let me do her hair.  So I ask what do you mean.  And she says well she let the water out and got out.  In my head I am thinking WTF ur the adult why didn't u just stop her, but I say ok we will give her one tonight before bed.  I get on Facebook to check my messages and stuff and I see SIL status and this is what it says" Lillian is in bath finally, have to go check on her".  I think OMG she left my 2 year old in the tub alone?!?  DH thinks I am over reacting but I don't care. I am gonna call work tomorrow and see about getting a shift opposite my husbands shift so that one of us can be with my daughter because I know longer feel safe leaving her with my SIL.  In my head I keep thinking, if she thinks its ok to do that what else is going on when we aren't around and she is babysitting?

Would you feel this way? 

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Babyl...
Feb. 10, 2011 at 10:53 PM

OMG! I am so glad your dd is ok!!! I do NOT think that you are over reacting at all and if I were you - I would never ever ever leave your dd with her again!! Obviously your SIL cannot be trusted (outright lie about the thermostat) and has a TON of maturing to do yet!!! Even MY 8 yr old knows you don't leave a 2 yr old in the tub alone - not even for a second!

I hope and pray that you are able to switch shifts or something - I wish I lived close enough to help you out!! Check into daycare assistance also - their guidelines are more generous than some people think. Good luck!!

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Carol...
Feb. 11, 2011 at 12:22 AM

u are so right to not let her watch ur dd anymore! u can not leave them a lone in the tub at all!! i hope u are able to switch shifts! good luck!

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mothe...
Feb. 11, 2011 at 8:15 AM

I'm with you.  That girl needs some classess.

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Sara-...
Feb. 11, 2011 at 11:01 AM

If your husband takes it personally and has a hard time being convinced, then put it this way.  God, forbid what if something were to happen, just think how that would ruin your sister's life as well as ours, and our daughters. 

If he thinks about it, his sister probably will be great at the babysitting after she matures a little more, but why put her in a situation where she is over her head, and set her and you daughter up for a disaster everyone will someday regret.

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No you are not over-reacting.

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Madly...
Feb. 11, 2011 at 2:00 PM

You're not overreacting at all!!!  I think I'd hurt somebody, truth be told!!  

I hope that everything works out so that you and your DH can be with your daughter.  Thank GOD your little girl is okay!  HUGS to you!

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cmadd
Feb. 11, 2011 at 2:29 PM

What about showing him his sister's status on Facebook? That is what I would do if I was in your shoes. That way I would have the proof to back myself up to him and show him!

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mellypoo
Feb. 11, 2011 at 4:34 PM

you are her mother and you are her biggest advocate. do not let this happen to your baby: http://www.examiner.com/celebrity-icons-in-national/infant-drowns-while-mom-plays-facebook-games

anyone who thinks a toddler is "smart enough" to do any number of things unsupervised, is a dangerous person heading for tragedy. kids know how to do one thing: make themselves dead. she is very lucky she didn't cause a death in the family.

when it comes to the safety of your children, i wouldn't give two shits or a second thought to your SIL's feelings.

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Cassi...
Feb. 11, 2011 at 8:23 PM

You are not over reacting!!! I just started letting my DD bathe with out me in there about 9 months ago and she is almost six!! Even now I check on her every few minutes.

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Angel...
Feb. 11, 2011 at 8:31 PM

heck no you're not over reacting! My DD is 4 1/2 and if i have to leave the bathroom for a minute to check on the baby while she's in the tub i make her sing at the top of her lungs so i can hear her the whole time and if she stops singing i'm back in that bathroom before you can count to 5 to check on her.

hopefully your husband realizes that you are only trying to do what is best for your DD and that it's not personal against your SIL (by that i mean if it was ANYONE who had left her alone you would react the same way, not just because it is her)

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pinka...
Feb. 12, 2011 at 4:18 AM

me daughter is 5 now and likes to bath alone but ... I wash her hair and body then remove some water before leaving the room then we sing songs and have constent comunication :P she feels alone and I know shes safe... if I had caught someone during or after leaving her in tub of water alone at two the would still be in the hospital and I would most likely be behind bars....

I am very protective of my child and if someone ever puts her in harms way or hurts her they wll be eating threw a straw for the rest of their life

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