Everytime the phone rang you never knew what to expect. DYFS workers didn't lie per say they are just really good at omitting the truth. Kind of a don't ask don't tell scenario. If you don't ask the right question worded the right way you don't get an answer. Anyway, once again it all started with a phone call. It was the worker with a ten month old baby boy. This was his second time being taken from his addict bio mom. Would we take him? We said," Yes", he arrived a half hour later. They thought he would become adoptable because the bio mom had just run out of chances. Well, he was the skinniest baby I had ever seen. He reeked of cigarette smoke. Not surprisingly he had asthma so severe he came with a nebuliser. His clothes what little there were arrived in a garbage bag. They also smelled of smoke and worse. I threw his clothes in the washer and took him up to give him a bath. When I opened his diaper i was in shock. His diaper rash was so bad he was bleeding.
I called my husband, bathed the baby and we rushed him over to the pediatrician. He had been severely neglected which accounted for the weight loss and the rash. It wasn't long before he was healthy though. Good food and a smoke free environment really healed his asthma. Without being in smoke 24 seven he could go months without an attack verses hours. We had him for a year and a half then they sent him back to the bio mom. A year and a half later we got him back. Turns out his bio mom had only had him for a month when she beat and neglected him again. He had fallen through the cracks and they had lost the fact that we had him in the past. He had gone to another adoptive foster home. They had planned on adopting him, but really wanted a girl. When a girl became available they disrupted the placement and well, traded him in for lack of a better term. Lucky for us they saw we had him prior and called us. We got him back at about 3 and a half.
We adopted him and he is now 13 and adopted by us.