So I stayed home yesterday evening when my husband, whom I havent seen in 4 months, and my children went to my MIL's house to hang out, eat, play music, and socialize. (Everyone in his family plays and instrument and extremely well) I decided to stay home since I had an exam in my "Integration of Psychology, Theology, and Sprituality" course. I had been reading the nine chapters throughout the week and I decided to do an outline on the informaiton I read before taking the open notes EXAM.

Well, obviously none of this payed off because I bombed the exam. I got a 67!!! I was so upset. I have never worked so hard at something and then fail. I had to hold back the tears. I mean as soon as I opened the online exam and scrolled down too view all the questions I knew I was in trouble. Half of the information that was on the exam I had never even came across in the text and it wasnt in his lecture. I'm just wondering am I missing something here?

Idk, makes me question if I should be in school or not. I felt so dumb! I mean I know I'm a bright person. Not to sound prideful. But I usually study pretty hard and I'll in turn perform well. I just hope I do better for the rest of the class. My husband defintely wants me to be in school. I want to make him happy but Idk. We'll see!!

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babyl...
Apr. 3, 2011 at 1:28 AM

First off you're not dumb. Because you made that choice to stay home just proves you wanted to ace your exam, and bottom line you TRIED, it's better to try than not at all...but don't let that grade discourage you. Keep it movin! ;) I think it's things like that, that should push you to do even better next time. Dust yourself off, and try again, right!? On the other hand, I truly believe you should be in school, because it makes YOU happy, and not for your kids, or even your husband, but for YOU. As a self fulfillment, if it truly makes you feel worthy and better as a person to be in school and pursue your dreams, then there's nothing wrong with focusing on you. I honestly wish I could be in school right now and cont. with my education, but right now I'm enjoying the ride of being a SAHM, and my husband has no problem with me doing what I wanna do, whether it's a sahm for life, school, work, whatever it is...as long as it makes me happy. Goodluck with whatever you choose to do! Whatever it is, your hubby should understand and respect your wishes :o)

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jwhite83
Apr. 3, 2011 at 1:47 AM

Thanks for the reply and the pat on the back. Your right about picking myself up and doing better!  First off I have to give props to the hubby...I know he would respect my decision whatever it is. I just know he wants me to be in school and I do wanna make him happy. So, it more me than him. You mentioned pursuing my goals and dreams. This field has been a dream and goal of mine for some time. But like you I'm a SAHM and I feel like my schooling is taking away from my kids. Thats really the issue as far as not wanting to continue. I dont wanna have to miss out on things with them because I have a research paper or exam. I think I honestly just enjoy being home with them, having fun, being a main influence in their live by teaching them everyday and modeling to them everyday. Decisions, Decisions! I think I'm afraind to leave school, thinking that I'm missing out on something by not continuing on to get that masters. Its funny cause I might not even use it!

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Lb128f
Apr. 3, 2011 at 3:44 AM

I'm sorry. I think you should talk with the Professor...explain that you usually do well...that you took time out of "family time" to study...and that you want to get some clarification on why you didn't do well. Tell him that you did not have the information in your notes and ask if he normally presents exams that have info NOT covered in lectures (this would be good to know)! Then ask if you can re-take the exam! He is there to "teach" and unlike most High School classes -- he CAN let you take the exam again if he wants to...most Professors (from what I have seen) WANT you to succeed and are willing to do whatever they can to help.

I understand what you are saying above about being a SAHM and about going to school. Why not reduce the class load? If you are feeling stressed and that you don't have enough time with your children and/or family...take less classes and lighten the load! It sounds like you have time to go to school (I mean it doesn't sound like you HAVE to finish at any certain time)...if I were you I wouldn't stop completely. You might not "think" you'll use your degree...but, it's one of the best things you can do for yourself and your children....you never know what life may offer down the road and having that degree can mean A LOT!

So, hang in there! :-) And, Good Luck!

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jwhite83
Apr. 4, 2011 at 12:35 AM

I actually thought about sending him an email an asking about the exam to see if I missed something. I really did think about that. But I didnt know if I would offend him and I figured I would just try to do better next time. But you're right I do need to find out what happened or what I was missing.

I do have the time to go to school. So taking it easy and lightening my load probably wouldnt hurt. Excellent suggestion. I just have to find out if my financial aid will cover part-time. I do need to lighten the road. These classes are overlapping for about three weeks. And at the end of a class is where you have the big projects. So...crazy work. I agree with not quiting all together.

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