My story begins 11 years ago.  My girls were 12 and 15, Going into Middle school and High school.  I was having female trouble and had to have an ultra sound  done.  During the ultrasound the technician was chatting with me about our family.   She turns the monitor  me and said " See the red dot?" "See it blinking?"  She said that is a heart beat.  I broke out into tears!!   She asked me if they were tears of joy, I said "No Shock"  So I was 38 and pregnant.  I got huge, I was on partial bed rest than for a month full bed rest.  My son was still 3  1/2 weeks early.

We were so excited to finally have our boy!  ( I had 2 other miscarriages )

Fast forward to age 3yr. There was something not quite right. He didn't play with toys, He didn't play with other kids.  He would spin everything.  He lined up shoes from one end of the house to the other.  He would talk but not to us!  He was obsessed with fans anything that  would spin.  I talked to the Dr and they said " you are used to girls and he is Just a boy!!  I listened.  In my heart I knew it was something else.

 At age 6 he was in kindergarten  and that is when I finally got his teacher to listen to me and we had him tested.  He would cry for hours. I felt helpless. The tests were inconclusive. He was too emotional. He was held back in Kindergarten because he didn't learn anything.  At age 7 he was tested again and he was high on the Autism Spectrum.

I was relieved, scared, upset and didn't know what to do next.   I remember my daughter was on the Internet and we looked up Autism.   Cafe mom popped up.

She signed me up and right away I started to read and learn I was not a loan  in my  new journey. Autism/Asperger's/PDD Awareness  group was the first group I joined.  They were the answers to my prayers.

I started to educate myself so I could educate anyone who had to work with my son.  I asked so many questions.  This group has always been there for help and support.  I have made so many friends from this group.  I have even got together with a mom and her kids.  I have several moms that we call each other regularly too.I can't wait to meet them some day!

Just this year  this group asked me to be an administer. I feel like if through my journey of 4 years I can help someone,  give advice or just be there to listen and be a friend.   I will help as much as   Autism/Asperger's/PDD Awareness  Group has helped me.

Autism Awareness is in April.  Here we live Autism every day of the year.

Thanks Cafemom   for Autism/Asperger's/PDD Awareness  group!!


 Admin to Autism/Aspergers/Pdd-Nos 

JCD mom

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Apr. 3, 2011 at 8:33 PM

I'm so glad you shared your story with everyone . . . I'm also glad you found AAPA, you guys are so much more than a group of people, you are a family of friends I wouldn't want to be without :o)

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Apr. 3, 2011 at 8:37 PM


I'm with Crystal-Autism may have put a twist on our lives but it brought us together as friends :)

I brought ya a click link and voted ya popular.

(((HUGS))) friend-One day at a time!!!

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Apr. 3, 2011 at 8:39 PM

Great Post!!!!

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Apr. 3, 2011 at 10:19 PM

Deb, We are happy to have you helping us out!  Much love and I'm glad to know just how much the group has helped.

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Apr. 4, 2011 at 11:46 AM

So great of your daughter to have helped out. Hugs!

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Apr. 4, 2011 at 10:06 PM

Hugs !!! Love you my friend!!!!

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Apr. 12, 2011 at 9:42 AM

Very nice post, Debbie!  I am glad I found CafeMom because i found you as a wonderful friend on here!  Keep your head up...I know it's not easy!  It is always something new here w/ Christopher, but I leave it in God's Hands because He is the only ANSWER!!  W/ God, ALL things are possible!!  HUGS!!

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