I recently read a book called, "No One Saw My Pain" by Andrew Slaby and Lili Frank Garfinkel.  It is a book that is meant to help people understand and hopefully prevent teen suicides.

My daughter's boyfriend shot himself last October.  It has been painful for both her and me to heal, especially as we lost my mother to cancer only three weeks later.

This book was wonderful to help shed some light on a very touchy subject.  I thought I would have a hard time reading it, but knowledge is power.  Because it helped me understand several perspectives, it is helping me heal more than it hurt to read it.

So many people make the mistake of overlooking the warning signs sent to them by their teens.  I, for one, thought the child we knew was simply being a rebel.  The problem obviously went much deeper than that.

I suffered from nervousness as a child and from separation anxiety.  Back then, these things were not as easily embraced and understood as they are now.  My problems were brushed off because my Dad refused to believe that a child had strong enough reason to suffer from anything that could cause serious problems.  His idea was that a child had not enough responsibilities to suffer anything of great concern.

Please, if you know of anyone who might benefit from reading this book, don't hesitate to pass on the information.  I wish I had been more vigilant in pursuing the concerns of my daughter's boyfriend.  Although the book clearly states that no matter what we do, there are some suicides that can't be prevented, I would rather do everything in my power than to shove aside concerns that might save a life.

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Apr. 4, 2011 at 9:54 PM

Thanks for the info.. we know a family who had a 16 year old son who shot himself and they too had no clue. It terrifies me cause I have 2 daughters .. one of them a teenager.. I will definately look into getting this book!!

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