So, Joe and I have been together almost 3 years now. I love him, his family, everything..BUT his mother still has pictures all over the house of his exwife and him.They've been divorced as long as we've been together, his mother claims to not like her and only have a relationship with her for their son Aaron but come on the pictures? It hurts to see and Ive mentioned it to him and asked him to talk to her about it and he says "Its not my house, I have no say" Well if its hurting me then shouldnt he say something. I think its rude and distatsteful. Am I wrong to think this way? I'd bring it up but she has such a temper i dont want to ruin my relationship with her. I am to the point where i dont even want to go to her house until they are removed!

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Sweet...
Apr. 4, 2011 at 9:24 PM

You have every right to feel that way! I totally get what you are feeling. I think that you should just come out and teel her how you feel. If she says no and makes a big deal out of it then, oh well, you'll just have to live with it. But, it will make you feel a whole lot better if you say something and tell her how you feel! I hope it works out!

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Shamr...
Apr. 4, 2011 at 9:44 PM Please don't take offense but I don't think its worth bringing up to his mother. I don't know how long they were married or how long they dated prior but taking pictures off the wall isn't going to erase the history. Trust me I didn't like aseeing my husbands(before we were married) ex wifes face smiling at pme hanging on the wall or in photo albums. What I did was stop looking at them thinking ugh his effing ex! And started thinking that's jenna and jaedens mom.

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Shamr...
Apr. 4, 2011 at 9:48 PM Sorry I'm on mt phone..bottom line try changing your thinking(it takes time I know),the photos are probably up there more for the grandson than anything. And if things work out..eventually you'll be up on the wall :)

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Chica...
Apr. 4, 2011 at 11:01 PM

I guess everyone is different.  I would probably be upset too but because they have kids together it may be because of that.  Maybe you can have some new pictures taken of the kids and so many that she will have to take some old pictures down to make room for the new ones. She is probably aware that those pictures may be bothersome but not sure what her motive is for keeping them up other than she doesn't have any others to put up.

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LenaM...
Apr. 5, 2011 at 7:13 AM

Oh we have pictures that we've given to her, only to be put up in a small shelf in the dining room away from view. I have tried so hard to change my thinking but Its difficult and I swear I was over it for awhile til this past weekend I noticed a large wedding photo of them newly placed on the Picture shelf..Its frustrating. Thanks for listening to my vent.

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LenaM...
Apr. 5, 2011 at 7:17 AM

Also, they were together only 6 months before they got married, their marriage was rocky from the start with both of them being unhappy. divorce papers were filed numerous times by both of them before they finally officially ended it right before we met. His ex is recently engaged. If the pictures are for their son then a photo album put up for when hes over and wants to see them would be more reasonable to me than having all these massive(8x10) photos placed in plain sight.

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