of a not so desperate housewife & momma

This is the question I've had to ask myself since first finding out I was pregnant and sharing the news with everyone. Before bugsy came along we had a nice social life with a decent group of friends and other couples. My husband and I would work our asses off throughout the week and on Saturday nights we would have friends over for drinks and sloppy fun, it was our ritual. After we got pregnant and the party was over, the friends disappeared. Some I've only seen once since getting pregnant and now bugsy is going on 6 months. What gives?? as soon as the alcohol is gone so are the friends? Thats pretty shitty in my books. It's made me rethink my thoughts on friendship. Yes I'm a momma now, I can't get wasted on the weekends and throw caution to the wind, but I'm still the same woman I was before! this is one of the many reasons I've joined this site, maybe I'll meet some young mothers like me, because it's apparent you can't be friends with other 20 somethings who don't have children, all of a sudden you're a drag. It's ok "old friends", your time will come and the party will end for you too.

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Apr. 7, 2011 at 11:36 PM

This happened to me too. Completely sucks!

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Apr. 8, 2011 at 1:11 AM

Oh my! Since turning 23 and having two kids, I feel that I am in this situation. I have friends who think that I can just magically pick up my phone and call someone to watch my kids at whatever hour. Once they realized that I wasnt able to go party or have a good time, they slowly started to fade and I realize what I true friendship is. So what if you got kids? Granted, they'll drive you nuts but they're the best things in your life and who cares if friends left you because of kids? Family... that is something that will never leave. They stick through good and bad. Kids are a big job, I will not lie, but they bring their own special happiness to the day and it is something that you could never give back. A day full of crankiness, tears, screaming, frustration etc. is worth not having some of the friends you used to, its just showing you who was meant to be in your life and who wasn't, who still wants to be a kid and who wants and is ready to be adults and take on such a responsibility as children. Idk, thats me.. Sorry for rambling :) Have a great day! :)

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