Well I'm in a stump basically but i'm just taking everything one day at a time.  My kids dad has been out now for two months we've only been together physically 4 times and that was my fault in the begining then when I have tried to make a way to be together he has found other things to do and we don't (can't ) live together now anyway.  He's here everyday and cooks dinner.  Which is a great plus I don't care for cooking.  I do the cleaning and suppling the food and stuff.  I'm on welfare and on a very tight budget with my housing and bills and diapers I just quit smoking or at least I'm not buying them anymore i bumm one  off James usually a day.  It fair trade.  We are friends but I don't think there is anything more we were sepparated for over a year while he was in jail i've been alone all that time and i'm doing good. I can provide for the little ones and my self maybe not very well but that is why i'm going to school during the morning and volunteering in the afternoon to gain some job experience and working towards getting a job.  I don't know maybe i'm over thinking everything or not enough. Who knows I'm just rambling I guess.  That is why I got back with this site for moms.  That is what I am now and I like it.  I am MOM. (tired now mom)

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Apr. 8, 2011 at 4:33 PM

Keep him at arms lenth.  Do what your doing and know what you want out of him.  Make sure you are honest with him and he knows there are boundries.

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Apr. 8, 2011 at 11:30 PM

I see your struggle mamas.. But it seems like your heading into the right track. Your keeping a roof on top of you & your kids head.. Your providing them with love and that is all children want from their moms. Your also striving to make it good for you by going back to school & volunteering to gain work experience, which is awesome! 

As far as with your children's father don't let him come in & out as he pleases. That's just complicating and distracting your piece of mind with the way things are already are. He's putting in negativity in your life and your trying to do positive things. I know he is the father of this kids but you need to show some sort of boundaries as the 1st poster ^^^ said... 

Hope all works well.... Take Care!

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Apr. 9, 2011 at 1:26 AM

It sounds like you are doing all the right things to get you and your children into a better situation! Good Luck!!

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