I lost both parents last year and I always went out with my Dad to lunch and shopping with my Mom. I get so jealous and very sad when I see people out with their parents. Sometimes I want to ask them if I can join them. There should be an organization where I could go and get some stand in parents.

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 9:25 AM

I'm sorry you lost both you your parents :( A friend of mine went through somethign similar...her mom was struck by lightening and was killed and her dad passed away from cancer not even 6 months later. It must be really hard, especially when you had a good relationship with your parents. I hope things get better for you soon and you are able to find some comfort somehow. ((HUGS))

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 1:55 PM

Look at it this way, at least you have parents and have those memories. I have one crazy messed up mother. My father was non-existant. He abandoned me when I was 3 so there is no happy memory to hold on to. Just gotta look on the other side of things. There would be plenty of people who would gladly just have memories of good parents.

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 2:47 PM

Hello Sweety, I know what you all mean about Cherished Memories of Parent's. I am so sorry you are without their Physical Presense.. I know they are watching over you & all of those they Love..

I was always the kid who sat back & envied my friends who were from Divorced & Single Parent Families. The screaming & Abuse from my mother was absolutely unbearable at times & I would always have to shelter my 4 younger siblings from her wrath.. Honey, take your quiet times for you & your folks, I don't know how you are feeling with their passing, no 1 knows the depth... I can offer a word of encouragement in that, They Aren't Gone, Just A Way For A Short Moment.. Sending You Love, Prayers & Positive Energies!!

Kelly (aka)Toby6IOU1

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 5:59 PM

if it would make you fee better you can always adopt a grandparent at a local nursing home. I know it wont be the same, but you would be helping an elderly person with no family as well as yourself. I am sorry for your loss

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 6:18 PM

I lost my grandma three months ago and we were extremely close and I get very jealous and sad when I see gradmas out with their granddaughters. There's even a commercial for Olive Garden and the Mom and Daughter say "We're taking grandma out to luch!" I hate that stupid commercial, cause they have thier grandma and I don't. I know how you feel.

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 6:30 PM

I have a rollercoaster relationship with my parents (sometimes good, sometimes bad) in the bad times it's my "other moms" that I go to and it's always them that I rely on for stability. I have found them at my church, one is the childcare lady for several biblestudies and things. There are people all over and several of the older ladies I know long to pour into someones life. They often have kids who are far away. If you see people (especially if you see the same ones often) I'd encourage you to ask them if you can adopt them. Go for it, it's a risk I know, but I now have over half a dozen mom's who love me and my family, check on me and offer advise. between all of them I have an expert with info on any subject I need. Good Luck!

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 6:53 PM

i lost my dad when i was little and my mom and i were never close. i work out of the home with a bunch of older ladies so i just make them all my mom! :-)

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 7:36 PM

I lost my mom a little over 2 yrs ago, and tho we never did things together, I wish she were here. It hurts alot when I see others with their moms. Im sorry for your loss <3

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Apr. 10, 2011 at 9:48 PM

go to a senior center and volunteer. they can always use help and you will have a lot of family. I have lost both my parents and yes even after almost 30 years it is hard to see people with their parents

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