This post is for all the moms that feel what they do is best for their children.

Throughout my whole 28.5 yrs of life, I have many regrets. But there are more things I DON'T regret than do. Besides becoming a Christian, becoming a mom was one of the best decisions God allowed me to make. Since I was a little girl, I always wanted to be a mommy and you'd always see me run to any baby in sight. 

In March of '06, I got pregnant with our first child. He wasnt necessarily planned, per say. I had gotten off the pill so we could try the calendar method, but in order to do that, I'd have to monitor my cycle for so many months, using condoms as back up. Well, condoms weren't our favorite, so we just stopped using them and decided that if I got pregnant, it was ok. Within 2 months, I was pregnant and we were both extatic. I took care of myself to the best of my knowledge, but ended up on bedrest the last 3 weeks due to high blood pressure. I was induced and during labor, we both almost died, resulting in an emergency c-section. 

From the moment I found out I was pregnant, I vowed to breastfeed because I knew it was best and it was cheaper. I didn't care how painful it was, I was going to stick with it. And, I did. Until my son was 8 1/2 months. Here is where my regrets as a mom take into play. When my son was 5 1/2  months, he all of a sudden started waking in the middle of the night, so his pedi said to give him cereal at night. So I did. Then by 6 months, he was on veggies, by 7 months he was on fruits, and by 8 months he was on 3 solids a day. He was still breastfeeding but I spaced his nursing and solids out a lot. At 8 1/2 months, he started fighting me during his nursing sessions, so I assumed he was self weaning. Had I done research then,  I would have found out it was simply a nursing strike and if I had cut out some of his solids and offered them immediately after nursing, he probably would have gone on to nurse to a yr old. But, naive as I was, I stopped bfing, put him on regular milk in a sippy cup at 9 months (with the dr's permission) and continued to feed him table foods. 

At 16 months, we took away his paci and started him on regular cups. 2 weeks shy of his 2nd b-day, we converted his crib to a toddler bed, at 32 months he was potty trained, and at 3.5 he was moved upstairs so we could convert his room into his sister's room.

When we decided to have another baby, I looked at things a little differently and made better decisions. Decisions I would NOT regret.  Olivia was completely planned and I was pregnant within 2 months of trying. We scheduled a c-section to avoid the issues I had during labor with my son. The dr and I felt the c-section was safer than a vbac. I vowed to bf her to a yr and did as much research as I could. I chose not to introduce cereal at 4 months, like her pedi suggested. I held off til the day after she turned 6 months. We didn't start 3 solids til about 8.5 months and even then the portions were VERY small. And now at 10 months, she's allowed to eat however much she wants as long as she nurses first. 

I have had people tell me that some of the decisions I have made were bad ones, even calling me a terrible heartless mother. Such as using the CIO method, putting them in their cribs in their own rooms from day one, putting them on schedules as bfed babies, spaking around 16 months, etc. I don't regret these decisions at all. Not one bit. I start the cio method at 3 months. Yep, you read correctly. Yes, I know it's not recommended til 6 months, but it worked for us. I followed this method as directed for 6 month olds.  I also put my breastfed babies on schedules, once they were 3 months old. They napped and ate on a schedule. Now, I didn't deprive or withold food from them at any time. If they really wanted to eat before their scheduled time, of course I fed them. By the time my daughter was 7 months, she was nursing on a 4 hr schedule and down to 2 naps a day. This was something SHE chose. I kept a journal from day one, documenting when she ate and slept to find a pattern and once the pattern was set, I worked around it and tried to enforce it. 

Both of my children are happy and independent. By 12 weeks, my son was sleeping through the night. By 7 weeks my daughter was sleeping through the night and now at 10 months, she's sleeping 11-11.5 hrs and still breastfeeding. Both of my kids go to bed w/o a peep and wake up happy as clams. Both of my children could sit in the floor and play for hrs by themselves (not that they had do, but they would have and working from home, it helps when I'm able to do some work while they play independently) They were/are both very content. The only time they'd fuss was in the evening. Now, the only time Olivia fusses is when my daycare baby fusses and I'm trying to console him lol. 

To sum it all up, I DO NOT regret putting my babies in their cribs in their own rooms from day one. I DO NOT regret letting them cio even at 3 months, I DO NOT regret putting them on schedules even as bf babies, I DO NOT regret taking away my son's paci at 16 months (should have done it before lol), I DO NOT regret spanking at 16 months (now it's hardly ever done),  I DO NOT regret, waiting til 6 months to offer solids to my daughter, I DO NOT regret moving our son upstairs to be the only person up there so we could convert his room into his sis's room, I DO NOT regret waiting til 32 months to start potty training, I DO NOT regret my decision to NOT be a babywearing mom, I DO NOT regret my decision to bf my daughter to a yr even though I've had many tell me she's too fat to continue that long. I am happy with the decisions I made and so are my children. And they are healthy as well. Isn't that what counts?

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Lb128f
Apr. 12, 2011 at 11:57 AM

Very good! Sounds like you've done a great job!

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