I lived in Europe for 5 years singing when I was in my 20's then at 31 I met a guy (7 years and 7 months ago) and he tamed me and got me to settle down. I had 3 children. We were best friends. He was loving, devoted, worshipped me. We were in love. We had one HUGE HUGE fight a month ago and he turned into a different person  no I did not cheat). A stranger. He dumped me on the street like a bag of trash with one suitcase and took the house, the money, the car, the phone, the pets and the KIDS!!! I am in a shelter no with 4 pennies to my name in utter disbelief. I used to be someone. I used to have things. I used to be secure. I used to be loved. I have been unsuccessful in job searching 12 hrs a day for 30 days and will start beggin on the street for money today. Any tips? I filed for divorce even though I never wanted divorce. HE DOES. I guess mostly he can't handle my depression. Well I was trapped in a house cleaning and cooking 24/7 without money for almost 8 years (but still in love) I serve him papers the 17th. Is there any hope for me? Live in a car or a tent? I can't leave town my babies are here!!! WHO EVER IMAGINED THIS WOULD HAPPEN TO ME! He told everyone I left HIM! He tells everyone he loves and misses me but wont speak to me, write me or see me. I don't know what to do! At least when I job hunt guys have been buying me dinner...I feel too old to begin again but I guess I can if I know HOW TO! I HAVE NO STREET SMARTS!

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Salem...
Apr. 12, 2011 at 3:15 PM

ugh, I'm sorry. I don't know what you should do but I hope things look up for you! Is there shelter helping at all? Perhaps return to school or singing?

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anich...
Apr. 12, 2011 at 3:18 PM

I'm curious, if this is not what you wanted then why did you file for the divorce? I personally don't think anything is right about this, why did you get kicked out? That's just as much your belongings as it is his! Those aren't just his kids, they're yours too! I don't know the laws in England but here in the states, this situation wouldn't fly! It wouldn't even matter if everything was in his name, your married!!! Call me "HARD HEADED" but, I'd be back in that house with my kids, dogs etc... Let HIM file for divorce, that's bull shit! Your Lawyer should have explained the laws to you, this can't be right? My advise to you is to contact your lawyer, find out your rights, same goes for the police. Stand up for yourself and your kids, do they wonder where you are? I'm sure they do, that's awful! I hope you get some answers, this is horrible and I feel for you!  Do you have family that can help you? There's no excuse for this, i can tell you for sure, his ass would be out, not mine, get a plan and go get what is rightfully yours! Sorry, I'm getting "ticked", just thinking about your situation! Keep us posted or pm me, I honestly wish you the best, I wish I could be you for 24 hrs., this shit would be turned completely around!

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Nixie82
Apr. 12, 2011 at 8:53 PM

ummmm... yeah how are you typing if you have 4 pennies to your name? How are you on a computer if you are sleeping on the street?

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mommo...
Apr. 12, 2011 at 11:21 PM

She could have typed this at a library?

I'm sorry you're going through this OP. Are you far from home? Is there anyone who could talk some sense into him?

I hope you find the help you need! Until then, be strong.

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Kanna
Apr. 13, 2011 at 12:42 PM

Sorry for your circumstances! I have been there!! I left on my own ( took the kids withme while he was at work) but he decieved me into letting him have them "for a visit" and I have to fight for them. Do whatever you have to to get them and once you ave them DON"T LET THEM GO without legal papers! Don't listen to anything he says. If you can't get help from shelters go to churches. Sounds to me like you need to do some soul searching and see if this is something that has beeen comming and you just didn't notice. That's what happened to me. He was manipulative and got me to agree to things that I didn't want to do. I agree with the post that said that if you don't want the divorce then don't. But it sounds to me like my controlling and emotionally abusive ex. Unless you've been there you don't understand how they get you to do things you don't want to! Message me if you need someone who's been there. I'd love to help! The best thing I had was Jesus, so I'd say find a good bible beliving church and you'll find help there. Praying for you dear!! BTW it sounds like we are about the same age and I am remarried to the most wonderful man! You are not too old it just feels like it.

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ladygetz
Apr. 13, 2011 at 3:47 PM

Hugs to you. You need to talk to a lawyer or mediator. He is the one who should have been out by the curb. His behavior is disgusting and shameful. Doesn't matter if he can't handle your depression, he should be respecting you a whole lot more.

Nixie82 public Library computers have internet access,perhaps that is where she is typing.

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Apr. 13, 2011 at 11:14 PM

How can you be on the net, if you are on the street and homeless, I hope your circumstances improve,

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