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A Penny for My Thoughts...



Question: Have you ever held a pet funeral?


No. I've never had a pet die.

Yes. It helped us heal.

No. I think it's a horrible idea, and would never do it.

Yes, and it was a mistake I will never repeat.

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My pet parakeet died suddenly today. He was sick for a few hours, and passed away comfortably in my room. My kids are 5 and 3, so when I told them that he died, they were like "Aww. Poor Lemon" (his name).
So I decided that after dinner, we would have a pet funeral for our little friend. HUGE mistake. I dug the hole, let the kids pet him one last time, we said a little prayer thanking God for the time we had with him, and then I laid him in the "grave". That's when the s**t hit the fan.... both of them suddenly realized what it meant for the bird to be dead, and they started bawling. My son cried for a while, and I felt like an idiot for having the pet funeral. I thought it'd be easier than just telling the kids that it died, and then him just disappearing....and certainly better than the ceremonial flush that my first pet got at the hands of my stepdad. I felt so bad that I cried with my son. This was not a shining moment in parenting for me...

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Apr. 14, 2011 at 8:48 AM

I'm sorry about Lemon...and I'm sorry the funeral didn't go well. Please try not to feel did what you thought was best. I've had pets pass...we never had a funeral for them. I think it's an okay idea. I'm sure both of your kiddos will be okay. It's okay for them to learn that sometimes animals (and people) have to leave. I'd just make sure they don't think being sick makes people die, you know? That people and pets die because they are sick or old...but, that just because someone gets sick doesn't mean they WILL die...most people see the Doc and get better. Maybe next time you could just tell them you took the pet to the Vet and the Vet took care of it? IDK? I think you just have to do whatever works best for you and your children. I hope everyone will be okay.

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Apr. 14, 2011 at 7:33 PM

When I lost some pets as a kid around your children's ages I cried, too, when I understood they weren't coming back.  Your kids probably would have cried anyways later on, so don't feel bad.

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